Can you identify this mystery sock?

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Just found under our bed. Not mine, looks too small to be his. I have done the laundry enough times to know his sock collection inside out and this is a rogue one. Thick sock, mens or womens? Anyone recognise it? Feeling very freaked out.

Be honest - others did this, right?! Just smelled my own sock and it still smells of the washing liquid yet I've been wearing it 8 hours.

He’s having an affair with a one legged small man 😱

I'd agree with this. I live alone with toddler Dd. Found random socks in my underwear drawer that I'd have sworn weren't mine but there they are!

Obviously I've picked them up somewhere along the way but no idea where it how.

This is why I think it's important to have more context around your suspicions

I wouldn't assume I know my partner's sock collection that well (and I do the laundry). I don't pay a huge amount of attention to his socks and we also sometimes buy new clothes without telling the other. I did notice new socks of his once and it turned out he'd bought them a year previously.

I mean it’s a sock. The inference that your DP is therefore cheating is absurd.

In the summer some men’s y fronts flew in through my dining room window and landed on the floor. If I hadn’t seen them I would have had no idea how they came to be there.

It's Dobby's!!!

If you also found the back of an earring on the stairs it sounds to me like a woman has been round!!!

Thing is, even asking him, he may have no idea whose sock it is.
Without sounding crass OP, I doubt very much he was paying attention to her socks, if indeed it does belong to another woman.

I have been with my DP a fair while and i'm pretty sure he couldn't identify what socks are mine.

I suppose the only thing you may get is if you simply say you found an item of womens clothing under your bed and can he please explain. And see what his reaction is to that.

Very weird

#sockgate

But also the earring

My initial assumption would be MIL. Does she have size 6-8 feet? Honestly, I'm in my 40s and I'd probably wear a sock like that. Not out of choice - it's ugly - but because it came in a multipack and I don't really care about socks. It would make sense that it showed up now and earring turned up a month ago and you had MIL to stay a month ago too.

If your MIL is in her 40s, I assume you both must be in your 20s. This is definitely not a sock a 20 something would wear to a quick sexy time encounter with an affair partner! It's also not what a sex worker would have on to visit a client either - if that has crossed your mind.

I would ask MIL if she has lost a sock and possibly an earring too, as you've found both. It will open up an opportunity to also them raise it casually with your partner and see his response. You would be amazed the things that house guests leave behind that I only find later - towels, cutlery, winter coats - and I know you don't have kids, but I also have a collection of clothes belonging to every child within about a mile radius of our house. People shed their belongings quite easily.

That said, if you already have suspicions, that's an issue of it's own.

So when you ask him

he will obviously 🤷‍♀️ and say no idea

then what? You seem convinced that it’s another woman.

It could be a small man.

But wound 2 men take their socks off for a Quicky? Probably not.

That would be brilliant in a sitcom!

I'm picturing Victor Meldrew having trouble with his washing line and the pants sailing in the air to next door..... 😂

Stop giving yourself reasons to freak out, unless you're looking for a way out.

Send the photo to your MIL. She'll be pleased to know that she's not going crazy because she's mislaid a sock.

There is the possibility you have been visited by a cat burglar who accidentally dropped the sock from the previous house -

www.bracknellnews.co.uk/news/19516548.cat-steals-socks-bras-neighbours-bracknell/

This is definitely not a sock a 20 something would wear to a quick sexy time encounter with an affair partner

People wear ordinary clothes during affairs. That sock looks like one from an ordinary multipack.

Sorry op, combined with the earring, it doesn't look good imo.

From your posts I assume he's cheated on you before?

Surely the earring is the most incriminating item here?

Earring back, so unfortunately not very telling. Technically could be mine, although this is very unlikely.

It looks like a man’s sock that shrunk in the dryer.

If I was meeting up for sex I would not wear socks like those!

Any chance he is bi OP?

Tbh knowing how long he has been alone in the house etc isn’t a sign of a healthy rel. If you are worried he has cheated or is cheating then leave him OP because it isn’t any way to live. He will drag you lower with every day that passes.

Can you tell when your partner is lying OP? I must admit I would jump to conclusions too but it could just as likely be innocent. I'd ask my husband but that's because I can tell when he's lying to me. If you can't I'd try and do some more digging first. Otherwise IF he was having an affair this would probably make him be a lot more careful about not getting caught.

I think the real question is why an earring back and a man’s sock is leading you to question your partner’s fidelity.

THIS!!!!!

And to the poster asking if he’s Bi?!! i’ve heard it all now!

OP said she had other reasons to be suspicious in first page. So these are supporting evidence, I suppose.

OP, I don't want you to be terrified so I'm going to do a shitty jocke. Are you living close to the North Pole? Could be the Elf's lossing part of their cargo.

Now the real stuff, it is very strange, I would ask him before I freak out completely. Not good advice for me because I would be probably freaking out by this point.