Got a slightly 'different' problem. I am a bloke, late 30s, happily married with young children, me and my wife are both doing very well career wise and had a great 50/50 going until last year when the younger went to school.
I have never been in good shape. I have never been obese either, just average with no muscle tone and just bland. I decided to change this up last year - nothing extreme but I started eating better, running more and doing lots of strength work. Basically anything that could be done at home or in short time frames (didn't want to lumber wife with children for too long whilst I swanned off)
18 months later and I am in good shape! Muscular but not to an extreme, lean and with much better CV. Clothes fit me better, my jawline has gone from soft to chisel and I am extremely happy and proud with my results.
Before the next bit, it's worth mentioning I have been with my wife a long time and only ever been with one other woman.
I am getting a lot of attention, particularly at work. I wish I could say I was all suave about it, but I get embarrassed and clam up. This attention from a couple of the women at work has now crossed to a point where even I have picked up on it and on one occasion I was directly propositioned.
I admit it's very flattering and tempting, but I could never cheat. My issue is what do I do? I can't tell my wife, it will introduce loads of stress for her every time I go into the office. The attention hasnt crossed into HR territory (other than the proposition). Is there an way to navigate this - my goal is a hassle free life here, so anything that quiets it all down with no fuss is ideal.