I hadn't really thought about this before until thread in AIBU

[Tonight1]

I have a house with a friend for several years now. I think he's attractive but definitely not in a romantic sense. He is absolutely not in love with me so this is nothing that could hurt him. It doesn't hurt him either as I would be delighted if he found a nice girlfriend.

But it's been only this year that I have tolerated some sexual activity because I wanted to chat. I'm not outgoing but I do like chatting!

It's best to talk to him about it really so that we're absolutely clear? I think he knows that I'm fine with messing around a little when I'm in a talkative mood. Definitely not full sex. It is a complete trade off really!

I'm voting Pumpkin Spice Latte, a socially loaded drink choice.

“But why? Just have a conversation like normal people. It doesn't need to be a tit per word.

Maybe it's time to get out into the world and make some friends OP. It's not healthy feeling so lonely that you exchange your body for a conversation.”

This. I don’t think this guy is a safe flatmate for a woman if he’ll only chat if he can cop a feel at the same time. He sounds awful.

"Very occasionally - look, I'm used to NT people. Both my siblings were. So I tend to take people as they are whether their behaviour might not be 'normal' to other people.

I have already sent him a message before 9am this morning asking if he realises it's a trade. Think he does, but would like to make sure. I'll have to get my chatting elsewhere."

• *NT? As in neurotypical? Everyone is used to NT people, so what has that got to do with anything?

OP, this arrangement is really very strange. What's stranger is that you're seemingly OK with it. I don't understand why you think allowing yourself to be groped is normal in exchange for having someone to talk to. That's seriously fucked up. It might be time for you to explore why you value your bodily autonomy so little.

We're all used to NT people, OP.
Our was this a dig at ND people?

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Every day truly is a school day on here.
Let me be clear;
Hi Bob, I've a lot on my mind, have you got time for a chat?
Yes Susan, bra off first please, whilst I grab my bovril
Not bovril Bob
And proceeds to juggle bovril and boobs
All very odd.

How old are you OP?

I had wondered.

But then we always get quite weird and wonderful threads at half term...

Just because people don't see things the way you do doesn't mean you get to decide if they're NT or ND. You do realise not all ND is the same right?

And diversity aside, you started a thread about how your housemate only talks to you if you let him get to first base. You don't get to complain when people respond to your thread.

This!

This is just so odd. I get that you are lonely and want to chat but I don’t get how this came about. He sat there with a boob in his hand talking about what he saw on TV last night?

Is this a house share or is it just you and him? This is not a normal situation op, he can see that you are lonely and is using this as an excuse to grope you.

OP. C'mon. You know this isn't OK.

He's using you. You're disrespecting yourself.

What does he drink?

A glass of Tequila Rose with squirty cream on top. Top weirdness over here people.

I also just want to know what the drink is!

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This thread was making me giggle but I got to this and proper LOL. My 19yo ds asked what was so funny.

His suggestion was boobs don't work like puppet strings 🫣🤣

Thanks , I'm here all week 😉
Apparently in OP's World her boobs are the puppet masters and gateway to exciting conversation....
I'd advise her to get a ventriloquist's dummy but I'm slightly worried what she would sit it on to get it to talk!

He sounds remarkably similar to the guy you've said is your cousin in a previous post

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/4890884-friend-got-refused-pip-at-12-points

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Makes sense to why the OP is being evasive like...m

Please say it's not her cousin OP let's grope her for a chat, and is thinking of letting it carry on just under clearer understanding. Say it ain't so

Weirdly enough although he can pass out for a few days and not eat he is actually quite physically fit
this is OPs friend/cousin
He's a remarkable man

This.

Is the drink Horlicks?

Wow just gets better 😂😂😂

Alright yes, that is him 😆

People change some details on here, not necessarily maliciously.

Red bull and coffee are the drinks.

We were utterly freezing last year when temp dropped in December below 0°c for a week and got used to huddling up on the sofa so I guess it has progressed this year into a couple of interactions. I don't feel demeaned, he wants cuddles and some interaction, I like to talk. I'm also quite impressed that my chest gets admired as it's really not admirable.

I'll put a stop to it now and speak to him about it when I next see him. I do genuinely care about his welfare and am not being a complete pervert.

Mary and Joseph