We’ve come to the end of a long road. I’m done with him drinking. He’s not aggressive with it (occasionally argumentative with me), but mostly just becomes absent and wanders off, can’t look after the kids, talks crap etc. But he’s not with us, he’s drunk. He’s not part of th family.
It’s not normal drinking, he pours vodka down himself to get drunk, not to socialise or enjoy himself.
My 9 year old, today told me she loves daddy, but doesn’t feel safe with him at home, even thought I’m here. She doesn’t like coming across the empty bottles, she’s sad he ruined her birthday party weekend, she worried he’ll wander into her room in the middle of the night (tbf he’s only done this once, but that’s once too often).
DS broke his foot this weekend. His dad spent Sunday getting drunk in the shed; it had all got on top of him and he needed some space, no, he just wanted to drink.
Im done, our relationship is over. My children come first. But, he’s pissed, an argumentative (if I push him, if I leave him alone he’ll just sleep). He won’t leave. I can, but it means moving two children and two dogs, one child with a broken foot, out of their home. Doable, but even more disruptive to them.
He won’t go. Does anyone have any advice. Will social care be interested, or could I get a protection order? I don’t know if we’d meet the threshold?
Please keep me company and help
me stick with this decision, even when I wobble about doing the right thing.