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Dating sites for the over 50’s

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WanderingNortherner · 02/10/2023 17:58

Are there any good dating sites for the over 50’s?

Any success stories?

I have given up with Tinder, Bumble and Hinge!!!

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bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 22:12

Oh as. I'm a high earner I never ask re income .

Mate if that's your experience I get it but the men are sleazy needy and weird in my experience.

One opened a chat with he had 3 kids and was a hgv driver away a lot so I'm thinking wtf? He is clearly looking for a nanny not a date.

I've been on line now for 3 years and had a lot of dates . Most of them are weird .

Imo men who are single at 50 are single for a reason . I'm not remotely needing a man . I take long long breaks off the site .

Best one yet last night , get talking to a guy who then tells me his last name which is synonymous with the local crime wave and when I say oh you must be xxxxx uncle he says oh yeah he's getting out of prison in January after goi g down for murder .

Couldn't make it up

SamW98 · 07/10/2023 22:13

My bio is witty and different - I’ve had a lot of comments on how it stood out.
All photos are just me, up to date and non filtered.

I’m on Bumble so I always message first. I read the profile and make the message personal. I’d say less than 1/4 reply and of those who do most just reply with a couple of words.

I don’t use text speak, I don’t give a shit what someone earns and would never be rude enough to ask. And most of the men I match with are in their 50’s

The height thing I do agree with as I’m 5’7 myself so prefer a taller man .

I think they’re a lot of chaff to wade through for men and women but I’m pretty sure most men don’t get unsolicited genital photos after a few messages

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 22:40

Imo men who are single at 50 are single for a reason,
I think the same about women tbh.

but I’m pretty sure most men don’t get unsolicited genital photos after a few messages
absolutely true, I have never been sent unsolicited genital photos, but I have been asked about my genitals.

I’m not sure why some women seem to think it’s okay to ask highly inappropriate questions to a complete stranger - 🤷🏼

Passwordsffs · 07/10/2023 22:47

I’m 60 and used Ourtime. One year into a really lovely relationship.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 07/10/2023 22:50

Friend of mine got sent dick pics on Our Time

not suprised 😂🙈

beatrix1234 · 07/10/2023 23:02

LightSpeeds · 02/10/2023 22:02

I've got a Bumble account. It used to be the one that was supposed to be a bit higher quality.

I don't think it is anymore. When I looked at the blokes on there a few days ago it was all a bit meh.

What do you expect of an app that is designed for women to chase men? When you chase a man he will take you for granted because he doesn't need to work. I never understood the philosophy behind bumble.

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:07

I went to bumble because I was sick and tired of getting weird messages from men - thought if I used bumble it might weed the chaff out .

It doesn't .

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:10

Mynewname

One of my last dates used pics 10 years out of date

Then called me out after the date because I was still on the app so I said I didn't really fancy a second date

So then he left a 1* review of the restaurant we met at calling me a
Slag .

Have you had to endure that at all ? Or have you dated a women who then told you 4 weeks in they were on fab swingers and had sex with 200 men without protection and asked you to go to a sex club ?

Nah . Thought not .

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 23:11

beatrix1234 · 07/10/2023 23:02

What do you expect of an app that is designed for women to chase men? When you chase a man he will take you for granted because he doesn't need to work. I never understood the philosophy behind bumble.

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This is exactly what is wrong with OLD, women see themselves as superior somehow, something to be chased - some kind of prize - rather than looking for an equal partner

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:16

Mynewname

What bollocks . Did you read my post ? The majority of men on line are not looking for an equal partner. They are looking for some dirty talk and a wank .

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:17

And bumble is the only app
women initiate . It's still wank fodder . Or time wasters . Or needy pathetic men .

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:18

Try reading the room .

beatrix1234 · 07/10/2023 23:20

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 23:11

This is exactly what is wrong with OLD, women see themselves as superior somehow, something to be chased - some kind of prize - rather than looking for an equal partner

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It's been my personal life experience (and I had to learn that the hard way) that chasing a man is always a bad idea. Yes I value myself, I see myself as a "prize", I'm not for everyone and not everyone is for me either. If someone is not willing to put the work and effort in getting to know me I'm simply not interested, simples. If I meet someone and I see "potential" I would let them know, but chase men? Nah.

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 23:23

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:16

Mynewname

What bollocks . Did you read my post ? The majority of men on line are not looking for an equal partner. They are looking for some dirty talk and a wank .

I’m sorry but that’s just complete crap

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 23:29

beatrix1234 · 07/10/2023 23:20

It's been my personal life experience (and I had to learn that the hard way) that chasing a man is always a bad idea. Yes I value myself, I see myself as a "prize", I'm not for everyone and not everyone is for me either. If someone is not willing to put the work and effort in getting to know me I'm simply not interested, simples. If I meet someone and I see "potential" I would let them know, but chase men? Nah.

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But why do think you are a “prize”, ?
I don’t see myself as a prize, I’m looking for an equal, not someone I have to win ?

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:41

In my experience it's not complete crap .

And my experience has been 3 .5 years of online dating . You can't speak for all men online pal .

I'm guessing you're one of those with 3 chins staring down into the camera and 5ft 5 . Maybe thinks of himself as decent but knows nothing.

You successful online ? Had many dates ?

beatrix1234 · 07/10/2023 23:43

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 23:29

But why do think you are a “prize”, ?
I don’t see myself as a prize, I’m looking for an equal, not someone I have to win ?

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I see myself as a "prize" because I value myself, I have a good life, a career I enjoy, good health, I'm a loving person and my friends always say I'm a lot of fun to be around. I know that partnered with the right person (and not everybody is right for each other) I have a lot to give. It's all about finding someone you're compatible with and having a healthy relationship. If someone doesn't see me as a "prize" (or as someone he's lucky to be with) but more of a shag or thing to kill time with till he moves to the next shag or thing to kill time with I have no interest.

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:49

And I hate it when men come here and try and mansplain my experience away . You don't get to do that .

Go back to bumble .

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:52

And if your the guy that started talking to me off site I've just blocked you .

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 23:52

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:41

In my experience it's not complete crap .

And my experience has been 3 .5 years of online dating . You can't speak for all men online pal .

I'm guessing you're one of those with 3 chins staring down into the camera and 5ft 5 . Maybe thinks of himself as decent but knows nothing.

You successful online ? Had many dates ?

thanks for the character assassination, really nice of you, and I’m not your pal.

im 5’11 , ordinary job, ordinary house certainly not a “high earner “, okay fitness , used to run 1/2 marathons until arthritis stopped me

online about 2.5 years, I’m seemly not what women want , a few dates, not many really it’s hard going and pretty depressing really

have given up now , wasted effort , met someone IRL, much better

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:53

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Boxerman · 07/10/2023 23:54

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 20:45

Well I'm a fox boxerman so dunno where you're looking 😂. Most of the men on bumble have serial killer vibes as none appear to be a capable of a smile . They can't take a selfie for love nor money. Of the few I match with the conversations dry up so fast it's obvious they're talking to many women and return when those conversations dry up . And without fail they turn the conversations sleazy within 24 hours . One of my photos showed a bit of cleavage and one messaged "can't wait to get my face between those " and is probably wondering why I've not replied .

It's bizarre .

I think it’s a minefield for men and women, really tough to come across as genuine. Interesting comments about guy with 3 kids clearly looking for a nanny, i’m a very independent father as i’m sure so too are many others. I don’t believe that genuine men ‘need’ a woman in their lives, as genuine women certainly don’t ‘need’ a man, but on the whole, if we’re OLD, we’re looking for attraction, companionship, a friend, and dare i say it………love

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Charming

myNewName21 · 07/10/2023 23:55

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:49

And I hate it when men come here and try and mansplain my experience away . You don't get to do that .

Go back to bumble .

Get lost

bemorebernard · 07/10/2023 23:58

This just about sums up my experience of OLD !

It's full mansplaining knobs . You're wrong ! I'm great me ! My experience isn't yours so you must be wrong !

Yeah yeah yeah .