Dating sites for the over 50’s

[WanderingNortherner]

Are there any good dating sites for the over 50’s?

Any success stories?

I have given up with Tinder, Bumble and Hinge!!!

Fucking men eh 🤮

Im 54 - I’ve had several naked and semi naked photos sent, including a bare arse in the mirror, a bath with a few bubbles covering the tackle. I’ve had a man start masterbating during a phone call, first messages telling me I’ve got fantastic breasts and asking if I’m wearing knickers - all from men who are probably grandads ffs.

My delete and block button gets pressed pretty regularly

Christ Almighty do they really think that turns us women on.

Sad isn’t it? And they’re the blokes who will be moaning about there being no good women out there and bewildered that they’re still single

That sounds really grim @SamW98

It is pretty grim out there. There’s a few decent guys and some have got lucky but there’s a lot of wading through the wronguns.

And I filter out most before I even get to chatting on phone so there’s even worse out there

Ahhh. That’s lovely!

Does anyone know if you still have to pay subs for OurTime to connect with someone? It’s a bit expensive at £39.99 a month.

So I paid about £120 for a 6 month subscription to Ourtime. Wish I hadn’t bothered! Totally full of men well past their sell by date.

I paid for a month on Ourtime and after 3 days realised it’s the same ones coming up over and over again.

And sone are very creepy. I’ve already blocked a few. A couple of chats but a real waste of money.

it's equally grim for us blokes, over 50's seems more like 60+, !! Will never understand why some guys send d**k pics, but hey, each to their own. Single life much easier!

We met on elite. It's not free which removes the time wasters but not as many people of course so unless you are in a major city you need to be prepared to travel (and one of you move potentially!) we now live together

I tried ourTime for a while and I thought exactly the same thing about the women on there as well 🤷‍♂️

I tried ourTime and I thought the same about the women on there as well

It’s hard because some of us are genuinely looking for an equal relationship and I’m positive there’s compatible men out there but there’s so much chaff to wade through it feels like too much like hard work.

Within a few hours of joining Ourtime I was bombarded with messages from completely unsuitable and quite honestly desperate seeming men. And some of the messages were pretty creepy.

I meet people out and about as well but as an older independent woman, the men I meet are either looking for a replacement wide to cook and clean for them or they’re looking for a FWB - surely there’s a middie ground?

Oh dear. Well, I’m not that bad!!

Why do these dating and relationship threads always attract the men telling us that it's just as dreadful for them! I don't see them in such large numbers in any other area of Mumsnet.

And it's not the same at all I shouldn't think. Women don't generally sent unsolicited, inappropriate photos and messages.

Who said anything about unsolicited messages, I was simply agreeing with the OP that most of the people on there are “well past their sell by date “ , applies just as much to the women as the men I’m afraid to say

You've already said that @myNewName21 Why repeat your post.

If I want mention the behaviour of some of the men on those sites, mentioned already on this thread and Mumsnet generally, then I shall.

I'm on bumble and it's absolutely grim ! Same age as you op. I'll avoid our time then !

I was considering elite in the hope the fact it's paid might attract a better audience

Why is it grim for blokes?

Well I'm a fox boxerman so dunno where you're looking 😂. Most of the men on bumble have serial killer vibes as none appear to be a capable of a smile . They can't take a selfie for love nor money. Of the few I match with the conversations dry up so fast it's obvious they're talking to many women and return when those conversations dry up . And without fail they turn the conversations sleazy within 24 hours . One of my photos showed a bit of cleavage and one messaged "can't wait to get my face between those " and is probably wondering why I've not replied .

It's bizarre .

I concur. If I had a £ for every man on OLD who thinks an acceptable first message is along the lines of

It would be rude not to draw attention to your cracking tits

Ooo your a nawty girl (sic)

MILF alert 🔥

Now that’s an arse I could grab hold of while you’re on top

And all of those are genuine opening conversations I’ve received in last few weeks from men old enough to be grandads.

And most of the rest are ‘hi’

It’s beyond grim

It’s grim, but in a different way.

Contrary to popular belief on this forum, most Female bios are crap, as are most of the profile pics ( mass holiday pics, kids scribbled out, groups of drunk women)

generally ( not all the time) women don’t send opening messages or respond to opening messages, lots of women seem to use text speech in messages and are incapable of stringing together a meaningful sentence and seem think that asking about income is appropriate within the 1sr few messages.

and if you are under 5ft 8 or over 55 , forget about it - you will get 0 responses, its mostly a waste of time ( and money) for most ordinary men.

My bio is witty and thoughtful. No group photos as that really annoys me . No serial killer pouts, double chin selfies or text speak , no filters .

Same shite .