Would you date a 39 year old who is twice divorced and engaged a further time.

[cheltsam83]

Quick poll and thoughts. I've started to date someone. Lots in common and I'm attracted to them. They have told me they are twice divorced and also been engaged a further time.

One thing I have noticed is they are very intense and throw themselves into things in a big way.

Should this be a red flag. They are 39.

They are massive red flags. I would avoid at all costs. Don't get sucked in by him

At 39 years old no one should have been married twice as it is and then to throw in engaged but they never made it to marriage. Why? I'm sure there's some story that sounds as tho the partner was at fault. Just be careful. Doesn't seem right to me.

My brother is 39 and he's just got divorced. Only married the once though?

Are they gender fluid or are you trying to disguise whether you are M or F?

At 39 years old no one should have been married twice as it is
Why is that? my first ended with his cheating the second he died.
Should I wear a bell round my neck? to cries of shame?

Erm, have you not challenged her around the money that you have given her recently that she has not spent on what she said it was for.

She sounds emotionally unstable and very possibly is Neurodivergent. It's her responsibility as an adult to pursue exploration of that, should she choose to.

Stop giving her fucking money when she has £24,000 in the bank. You've contributed towards her becoming a spoilt, entitled materialistic, emotionally abusive twat who has told egregious lies about you and your husband.

She CAN afford to move out with that much in the bank. And, no, you should not carry on helping her with the visa etc.

@Dgrl04

At 39 years old no one should have been married twice

You're a judgemental aren't you! And I'm saying that as a 47 yo who's only been married and divorced once.

Very likely a man who doesn't want to admit being a man, but doesn't want to lie outright and switch sexes I'm their OP either.

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No

No

Three women can't be wrong. Dont be the fourth and prove it.

Not unless you want to be another notch on their belt. This smacks of a lovebomber who is ultimately flaky and can't commit.

My ex had been married twice and engaged several times before he turned 40 our marriage was technically a long lasting one however five years of it was because he refused the divorce and I had to get it under the five year rule covid drew it out a little longer so almost six years later than I would have liked on paper he looks unlucky in love in reality...run

Big huge red flag absolute no go

What's with the they/them? I take it you don't want to say man or woman.
Also, what reasons have "they" given you for the marriages breaking down? The exes at fault no doubt.

I would run for the hills if it were me, not necessarily the divorces, mainly the intense/lovebombing part.

Intense? He's a love bomber. Avoid!

Nope.

Intense. Moves fast.

Nope.

As my grandmother said.....marry in haste, repent at leisure.

I would run

Do you whatnot get married and have kids? Do you like him?