Longest you’ve been single?

[BananaSlug]

There’s lots of talk about women staying single and not wanting to date and not needing a man but I don’t know anyone irl who feels this way and all the women I know are dating so out of interest what is the longest you have been single? (as an adult obviously) Completely single no friends with benefits/ sex, nothing. Or if you are single how long have you been single? Just wondering out of interest.

Yeah that’s why I didn’t include sex as I think a lot of people would stay single for a lot longer if they was still getting sex and for me I can’t do casual / FWB just isn’t for me.

I was single for about a year and a half between splitting with my husband (long marriage), and getting together with my partner. I wasn’t looking for a relationship, it was the first time I had been single and I was bloody loving it - but fate steps in sometimes, lol.

I think it’s actually much more common for women than men. Saying that, everyone is different, but it surprises me you don’t know any real life women who stay single for long. I had one long relationship from age 17, my first everthing. 12 years with him. Then a year single. A short relationship of a couple of years after that, then 6 years disinterested in anything, even banter with any man. Fell for a someone big time and spent 3 years with them but it all went wrong. Also a single parent who is devoted to my child, but just don’t meet any men I like in that way. It’s rare. For me I’m all about love if I take that jump, not dating or casual stuff or banter without feeling. I don’t think it will happen again for me now. I love the intimate side of things but only with someone I’m committed to and have to have that intital crazy in love spark.

3 years and counting

Was the first time I'd really been alone since 21 and was a bit worried about ho'w it would be at first but I do more than I ever have and it's fine

Do I want a miserable nagging woman dogging my every step? No. Do I want a kind and friendly lover companion and confidante? For sure

Not going to compromise though