An old friend from uni just got in contact with me from 20 years back and is saying risky things, what’s he doing?

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I haven’t spoken to him in 20 years. We shared a flat at uni and one night I remember having a cuddle and bit of a grope lol.

He has separated from him wide and has basically asked me how my sex life is and whether my partner gives me the attention I need. Then he asked if I remember the grope and if I would have wanted it to go further.

I’ve not spoken in 20 years what’s he playing at? That was a lifetime ago!

I think it’s fairly obvious what he’s playing at .. he’s found himself seperated and thought he’d hit up a few women from the past to “massage “ his ego …

GF/wife has dumped him and he's messaging all his contacts hoping for a pity shag.

Up to you how you respond but mine would be 'sorry, who dis?' I mean, pretty arrogant to assume you a) remember a grope from two decades ago and b) have longed for him ever since to the point you're happy to be a pick-up.99

I got talking but now I want out of the conversation. I’m happy in a relationship.

What do you think he is playing at? Seems pretty obvious!

He's lonely and horny and idealising the past.

Ignore the 99, no idea where the hell that came from.

Happens all the time
he wants attention validation and a shag

lazy nugget should go on an app instead

send him a link to tinder and forget about it

He's from 20 years ago. Either tell him you don't want to talk or block.

Block and ignore

He's one of millions who do it, half of which are "happily" married

He knows I’ve got a new baby. That’s gross!

Just tell the perv to fuck off and block him.

You owe this man none of your time or energy.

I had this a couple of years ago from my first boyfriend - I was 48 when he got in touch FFS. Started off harmlessly enough, then quickly segued into "me and my wife don't have sex anymore" and trying to sext me. Then told me not to tell his wife as she'd previously found out that he'd done it to the girlfriend before me too. Didn't bite and blocked.

He is probably finding dating hard and fruitless so trying it on with past 'could have beens'
It's not personal, this is about him and his own midlife crisis. He's embarrassing.

So block him and don't engage

Midlife crisis, just shut the convo down.

Less effort to message someone he already knows than to try and get sex from someone new. That’s it.

I highly doubt you're the only woman he's sending messages like this to.

He sounds bored and horny.

Isn't that called hoovering?

He's going through his little black book and messaging everyone in it. It's not about you (married, new baby), it's about his dick. Any woman would do.

If you really need to reply send him the link to grindr. He might score better on that.

Why are you engaging this wanker. Just block him.

He’s having no luck on the dating apps so he’s casting his net wider in the hopes of finding some warm willing flesh. You owe him nothing so just block him.

Wow why on earth did you even respond?

Block him

Initially I was like wow blast from the past, we shared a house for 2 years what you up to. Now it’s got weird!

Tell him you're uncomfortable with this line of conversation and say it needs to stop now. If he persists, block him.