An old friend from uni just got in contact with me from 20 years back and is saying risky things, what’s he doing?

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I haven’t spoken to him in 20 years. We shared a flat at uni and one night I remember having a cuddle and bit of a grope lol.

He has separated from him wide and has basically asked me how my sex life is and whether my partner gives me the attention I need. Then he asked if I remember the grope and if I would have wanted it to go further.

I’ve not spoken in 20 years what’s he playing at? That was a lifetime ago!

Stop replying 🙈. I'd have said let's leave it there and blocked him after the first inappropriate question as it was the clear what he was after. He's likely been through all the actual exes, one night stands and now on to casual gropes - no disrespect to you OP, that's all for him but don't fuel the hope answering him even to tell him you're happy isn't a deterrent

My god you are loving this 🤢

I really hope you've blocked this creepy idiot.

Also, if you are happy now with your current partner and he found out you've been chatting away despite the comments it would sting. Did for me anyway.

Past is in the past and he's not good so block him and forget. He'll only cause you problems.

How long did the conversation go on for?

You know exactly what he's playing at.

What's more difficult to understand is what you're playing at by not immediately blocking him, the second he disrespected you.

I thought he was talking about what happened to his own relationship until I twigged. It wasn’t until the comment about do you remember that little “grope” 20 years ago and would you have wanted it to go further I twigged. Haven’t said anything since after I said that was a life time ago and the past is in the past. I actually felt disrespected then.

So you blocked him immediately?

He's fishing around in hope of a bite. Probably flicking through his little black book and approaching multiple . why do you feel any need to reply? You could have just ignored and block him.

I replied before as I thought I’d say hello how are you. We shared a house all the way through uni, I wondered how he was doing. His Facebook page showed married and child. Didn’t expect the conversation to change. Was talking about how my baby doesn’t sleep he suggested what worked for him. I thought it was just a conversation with an old friend but turns out it wasn’t. It’s not how I remember him, he was a decent person back then.

I though it got weird when he said try coffee for be exhaustion of being up all night and I said I don’t like coffee and he said I used to drink it with him back then. I didn’t, I’ve never liked coffee. Anyway I’ve blocked now. Just a weird encounter.