Husband is deluded

[Itsneverenough007]

Hi all
Just want to ask you guys if I'm being unreasonable or if I've really married an asshole.
It's to do with the garage door key - inner door from garage to kitchen has 2 keys normally left in the lock - the kids were larking about and we're going to lock each other out in the garage - kids said where are the keys I said I didn't know - husband then said in a very accusing voice ( even the kids picked up on it) to me - where are the keys what have you done with them - he got very patronising and said it must have been me that moved them - I swear that I didn't touch them. Anyway he's been giving me the cold shoulder for the last two days and said have I found the keys - I've searched high and low - until I checked his pen pot on his desk and low and behold there are the keys - now my dilemma is do I tell him I found the keys and risk him thinking that I only found them because I put them there or leave him to find them? Advise me dear people!!

Nasty arsehole.

Like others I bet this isn't in isolation.

Take those keys and put them somewhere and don't say a word, he knows well where they are.

Have a hard think OP about how he behaves around you and hour children.

Put them back on the hook but don't mention it. When he says "so you found the keys then", act casual and like you don't know what he's talking about - "w
What keys? I didn't know you'd lost any keys". See how he likes the gaslight treatment.

Yes, do this.

And also contact a divorce lawyer. He is seriously twisted.

Just asked my H he says be sarcastic for a very long time. Can't find the teapot "should we check your pen pot". I am sure I left the spade here, best check the pen pot etc

He also says never worry about being given the silent treatment surely that's better, as in you can go somewhere else and ignore the knob.

This is a man's point of view.

Quick, shut the thread, a man has spoken.

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He also says never worry about being given the silent treatment surely that's better, as in you can go somewhere else and ignore the knob.

@frozendaisy yay right. 🤪🤪
Thats the sort if answer a man, who have never had to face the silent treatment fur days in end, will say.

As for ignoring… do you really think ignoring the abuse will make it go away??

Btw @frozendaisy , if that’s the way your DH is behaving towards people who somehow had a slight with him, he is twat.

Sarcasm as a LT solution is crap.

If that’s the way he relates to you, you might want to review your relationship tbh. You’re not in a good place.

Home is meant to be your safe calm
Place where you're at peace xx

Tell him you've searched everwhere and can't find them, would he mind having a look just in case he's got them.

See where he tells you he found them. If he says he found them somewhere else, e.g. the kitchen drawer, then you'll know for sure that he's gaslighting you.

Make sure you take a photo of them in the pen pot first. Not to show to him, but so that he doesn't mske you doubt yourself.

This is how you find out who he is.