Do you still fancy your DH after a long relationship

[Palacelife]

And if so, how long have you been together

Together nearly 17 years... yess still fancy him

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22 years. No because he's an arsehole to me.

Yes, 14 years, second relationships both.

Even when annoyed with him, I fancy him. Which can in itself be annoying.

37 years and still counting. Yes, I still fancy him. But at our ages 'fancying' is more than just sexual attraction. It's a whole package of 'different' attractions all wrapped up in our years of the shared experiences in our life together.

As far as sexual 'fancy', well, what we used to do all night now takes us all night to do.

No. 38 years together and he is a lazy bastard leaving basically everything to me. We have so much shared history though, and we do have a laugh together sometimes, and I don't want to have to sell my home for him to have half of it.

He lives an extremely unhealthy lifestyle... and his relatives weren't known for their longevity... so....

Sometimes.

Been together 12 years and I'm still as attracted to her as I was when we first met, if not more due to knowing more about her and having lived with her for so long. I think she is genuinely a wonderful, gorgeous, incredible person.

Because I genuinely don't know anyone in real life 'who fancy the pants of each other after 20 years" 🤣sorry just total rubbish. Still in love yes, have built a life together of course but that's about it.

@Moonsun88 I don't talk about this to my friends but why is it rubbish? There's so many of us who do still really fancy our partners.

It's sad if you don't but it doesn't mean all of us who do are making it up

@Moonsun88 that's sad.
I don't go shouting it from the rooftops and have these conversations with other people because it has nothing to do with them.

I've been with my husband since I was 14.... at the age of 34 if I didn't 'fancy the pants' off my husband I would find that odd... we're both young... sexually active and he's my handsome husband!

That's great but I don't believe this is a true representation of the majority of marriages/partnerships.

I work day in and day out with clients of a certain age and honestly that phase of "fancying the pants' fizzles out to stronger love/bond/yes there may be attraction but fancying the pants like honeymoon stage is not the phrase I hear except on here and the strongest glue that keeps a marriage together is supreme tolerance..many many marriages just end up in divorxe anyway so fancying isn't going to save that. 😬

Yeah he’s still a banger.

Well I do! Didn’t realise it was so seemingly unbelievable.

We’ve just had our 25th anniversary & are both approaching 50. And yes physical attraction & sex is a really important part of our relationship. Objectively we’re both far fitter, healthier & more conventionally attractive than we were in our 30s. He pisses me off massively sometimes - he’s disorganised & chaotic and I’m the absolute opposite - but the lust is still strong.

@Moonsun88 you have no idea what goes through peoples heads. I would never vocalise this anyone... writing it down on a forum is completely different. I would never say this to a professional!
You have no idea what things people go through in day to day life. Currently going through a terrible time myself with my husband's health.... but he's still as handsome as ever and I couldn't be without him!
Maybe your work has tainted you in some way.
My parents are very much in love after 44 years.... i can't say for the fancying the pants off each other... that's a conversation I would never have.

You're very right on this. I'm very sorry to hear of your hsubands health and hope he heals. I guess it is tainted a bit from my own view point.

Yes, very much so.
Together 20 years.

No, I don't. I love him, I still think of him as a best friend but I don't look at him and phwoar!
We still regularly have sex and I enjoy it but as someone said further up thread, I don't think of him while .. enjoying myself!

*and think phwoar

I imagine that the vast majority of people fantasies about someone other than their partner when they have some “me time”.

What would be the point in fantasising about something you already have?

By definition we fantasise about something we want….and seeing as I can have sex with my husband anytime I want then I’m going to use my “me time” to think about something or someone else that I can’t have 😂

But generally on here and a few other places, all you see is the bad relationships. And the break ups and the vile endings and the fighting over the children , the narcissistic and domestic violence and on and on.
Those of us in currently wonderful relationships dont want to rub it in for others going through terrible divorces. Plus theres nothing really to start a thread about.

I've been divorced from an utter wanker of a man. I sorely wish this place had been invented back then.
I could have done with the relationship board to help, I was totally screwed over, I came out of that divorce with two children and zero money and no home. I look back in absolute fury at myself for being taken in by his be kind rhetoric.
So when I have the time and the headspace, I try to post on the relationship board, try to signpost women to helpful places, try dry humour to get them to see they're living in a nightmare.

But I rarely tell them I'm wonderfully happy, it would be mocking.

@Ourladycheesusedatum 👌👏

I fancy my DH more now, been together 14 years.

He has considerable less hair now, however he's been working out and has added a beard. Aged like a fine wine 👌🏻

No I stopped fancying him years ago and have horrendous crushes and dreams of other men which is torture as sometimes it's mutually reciprocated and so tempting to have an affair. And no, I won't leave because I'm too comfortable. Nothing is ever 100% perfect in life.

I'm where you are.

Plus he also grew a beard, and I hate beards. While he's clearly free to do what the hell he likes with his facial hair, I'm equally within my rights not to like it! 🤷‍♀️ Maybe I'd have got past it if he wasn't such a grumpy, tinfoil hat-wearing, conspiracy theorist these days. Hard to tell, given they seemed to happen together.