Do you still fancy your DH after a long relationship

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And if so, how long have you been together

@Abracadabra12345 @Moonsun88 not quite sure in a thread like this why an honest yes is questionable? Surely we are entitled to say something positive if that is our experience?

Yes, more than ever. Known each other just over 11 years, married 9. I'm 29, he's 43. We are still completely in love and very much still attracted to each other. We have 4 children and one on the way so we're doing well in that department!

We both look after ourselves, I've had some cosmetic work done and DH is a gym rat. We make an effort for each other and it pays off.

I left my marriage because I didn’t want to sleep with him anymore, to be fair he used to be sexually abusive so it killed it. A while ago now. I’m just wondering if it was the wrong decision. It’s sad losing the wider life and family and I wondered how important it is. Whether it’s something that can be retained in a relationship

@Abracadabra12345 above sorry forgot to tag you!

No you’re not the only one!
how, how! Does everyone stay friends/lovers?
what does it feel like? How do you know? How do you know it’s just a rocky patch and you’ll work it through, or how do you know it’s so not and you should go?
i should add, DP put on a LOT of weight as we’ve had stressful stuff going on. I’m no oil painting, well, I’m the sort of oil painting you find in an attic. but I physically don’t like being under someone with such a massive stomachs. He also has huge rugby thighs which were always a pain, but this, coupled with my libido suppressing medicine. How? Do you all manage?

20 years (since we were young teens)
Still fancy the pants off him!

As you both grow and change your love grows and changes. I've put 7 stone, then lost 2 stone, then put on 2 stone, then lost 3 stone in the last 3 decades. I'm still 4 stone heavier than I was when we met. DH his 3 stone heavier. When I look at him I'm obviously attracted to his physical appearance, but it's because it's him that I find him so attractive. If you put 30 year old Brad Pitt and DH in front of me and made me choose, I'd choose DH, because I'm so in love with him.

Aww, that’s lovely! 💐

@FrenchandSaunders me too - same exact situation.

Married over 30 years and I still fancy him! He’s all I ever wanted and he feels the same about me. I’m so lucky to have found him….❤️

I can honestly say in our 13 years together we have never had a rough patch. We’ve probably had 1 or 2 big arguments about something serious but otherwise we never fight.

I know I love him because I feel so completely safe around him. He would do absolutely anything for me if it made me happy and I know that I’m always his priority (alongside the children). He is totally selfless.

When we are apart we spend most of the day texting each other about absolutely nothing in particular. Or we will ring each other even if we don’t have anything to say, just because I it feels weird to not be hearing each others voices.

And I love it come the evening and the kids are in bed and we put a film on and we cuddle up on the sofa with my head on his chest and he’ll play with my hair because he knows how much I love it.

When he comes home from work I run to the door and give him a massive hug simply because I love him and I’ve missed him.

Our love is different to how it used to be, but the love we have now is so much more real. Like I said, I feel completely safe around him and I never feel worried or vulnerable about anything because I know he’s 100% there for me.

Since we met we’ve both put on weight but when we’re in the throes of passion it is not even an issue at all - it feels no different to the sex we had at the start of the relationship….the passion is still exactly the same.

In the wedding vows be wrote he told me that I was his best friend and it really is like that…..except we have lots of sex with each other too 😂😂

Well exactly. I love my DH, don't get me wrong, we have a happy marriage and a good life. But do I "fancy" him, as in butterflies, thinking about him, missing him and "can't wait to get to the bedroom" - no I don't. That's normal though.

Yes - together 16 years and he still takes my breath away sometimes

Yes, 20 years together, however menopause is killing my sex drive and its hit and miss if I want it. Still i adore the ground he walks on and he loves me. I am hoping meno is over soon and we can get to more meaningful intimacy again. I dont want to lose him for the sake of sex.

I love this line ❤️

I do not think this thread is representative of most marriages

I've not been with my husband for as many years as some here, but we have been together for over a decade.

Yes I do fancy him still. He is aging rather well, but has just an innate sexiness that makes me feel a bit giddy when he turns it on. Since I've been with him I've found the idea of being with anyone else a bit nauseating actually.

Which is very lucky for him, as there have been times over the years that he has pissed me right off, or we have been through a difficult patch, but knowing the connection we can have has carried me through. He also totally has my back anytime I need him too to be fair, and is very funny. But yes, I find him incredibly sexy, even when he has annoyed me.

Together 18 years and yes, but he goes to the gym and eats well so looks very good for his age. I, on the other hand, have gained weight and aged less well, so I often wonder why he still fancies me

Married 25 years he still rings my bell

Gosh no, I just don't look at him that way unless drunk and/or horny. He's my favourite person in the world, but I don't do the phwoarr thing and neither does he. To be honest, it would seem a bit ridiculous, like chewing at his ankle or something. Not to say we don't jump on each other now and then, but I can't imagine it being a driving force. Call me sad 😀

Met in refectory Q at University, we were both 19. Married shortly after graduating. Married 20 years and three kids later, still fancy the pants off him and frequent do !.

The best thing I ever did was marry the right man, altho singing hymns at the top of his voice in the shower is a bit strange. Oh and he has a double decker bus called Nancy. I real one, a big red one. 😑

Totally agree.
Bit gushy.....

Yes I do. Married nearly two years but together for 21

Yes, we have been together 17 years and he was my "first" so I was 17 years old when we met and now have 2 beautiful children but I am not the skinny young thing he fell for but then neither am I after kids (stretch marks galore) however he insists I'm very sexy and he's always up for it. For reference when we met I was about 8.5/9 stone and Now I'm about 11.8st 😟 I also have stretch marks but he's never said a word. However. I think he's absolutely gorgeous and he's said he doesn't care about my body, so I am what I am x

30 years married.

I wouldn't say he takes my breath away. I don't get butterflies etc. I thought that stuff was the first beginnings of a relationship. But I look at him sometimes and think "if I wasn't married to him and I met him I'd want to be married to him"

Also we still have great sex (and sometimes ok sex), really like each other, have a laugh together, completely have each other's backs and have been through a lot together and are nice to each other.

OP, you did NOT make a mistake dumping a man who sexually abused you - nothing is worth that.