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New man but he shoots as a hobby ...

374 replies

jumpinjax · 07/08/2023 10:27

He seems lovely but he's told me from the outset that he shoots as a hobby.
I don't have any major feelings about shooting one way or another , because I know so little about it but now told me that he's going on a big game shoot in Autumn and I don't know what I feel ... except maybe pity for the animals.
Would you get rid straight away?

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mumda · 07/08/2023 11:53

Rabbits?
I'd not have a problem with that.

Lucyintheskywithadiamond · 07/08/2023 11:53

jumpinjax · 07/08/2023 10:42

A controlled shoot of elephants and big cats I think in a reserve . I need to learn more .
And deer also. Again, controlled.

WTF!!!!! Get rid of the disgusting pathetic excuse of a man.

Farahpascalmoges · 07/08/2023 11:54

jumpinjax · 07/08/2023 10:27

He seems lovely but he's told me from the outset that he shoots as a hobby.
I don't have any major feelings about shooting one way or another , because I know so little about it but now told me that he's going on a big game shoot in Autumn and I don't know what I feel ... except maybe pity for the animals.
Would you get rid straight away?

How could you even consider it - being with a man who kills animals for fun? You don't have any "feelings" about it? What about FACTS? The facts of trophy hunting, the facts of pheasant shoots and deer hunting. How can you not care about that?

Get a clue. You are ice cold, but the fact you are on here asking people's opinion makes me think many people would be disgusted by it.

heathspeedwell · 07/08/2023 11:54

Men who enjoy hurting animals often enjoy hurting women and children too.

megansmarkle · 07/08/2023 11:54

He sounds ideal.

If you don't want him send him my way.

NetballHoop · 07/08/2023 11:56

I imagine all big game hunters to be a bit like the person in this article (in Spanish). He planned to open a hunting museum.

https://elpais.com/elpais/2019/10/01/album/1569938981_231980.html

El arca de Noé de la caza

Los animales disecados de Marcial Gómez

https://elpais.com/elpais/2019/10/01/album/1569938981_231980.html

Soubriquet · 07/08/2023 11:56

I don’t like it, but I do know that some animals are shot for reasons such as elderly, or over population. Elephants and big cats are prime targets for this. If there are too many elephants in one area, there isn’t enough food for all of them and there’s a chance starvation can occur. By taking out some of the excess,’it allows the population to thrive.

Like I said, I don’t like it but I understand it. Still wouldn’t date someone who did it though

Wheresthebeach · 07/08/2023 11:57

Hearmeout · 07/08/2023 11:53

What's the distinction? Because it sounds like it's just that you wouldn't eat an elephant.

I accept animals and birds are killed for us to eat so not sure I can get too judgy about being killed at a farm v being shot in the wild. I don't accept killing just for fun, also going to Africa to shoot big games just seems very...colonial...to me.

Seeleyboo · 07/08/2023 11:57

Grotesque human. Throw him back and shoot him along the way

dawngreen · 07/08/2023 11:58

A huge difference between a bush tribe killing for food to survive. A game hunter is a coward that pays to be driven to a area with animals either held in a large pen to shoot. Unless they are driven to a area to shoot a animal. Then they upload their sick pictures, and talk of being men. Real men don't do that I would never allow that sad excuse for my species near me or my house!!!

AmazingSnakeHead · 07/08/2023 11:58

Hell no. Elk and pheasants for food I'd be ok with. Flying to Africa for the privilege of bringing down a beautiful animal and displaying it's tusks, no.

Porageeater · 07/08/2023 12:00

Nope I absolutely could not tolerate that. It would make me worry that they were a psychopath to be honest because it’s cruelty for fun and nothing else.

Lucyintheskywithadiamond · 07/08/2023 12:01

SparkleFromWithin · 07/08/2023 10:52

People actually shoot big cats and elephants as a hobby ?

But why ? 🥺

Probably has a tiny penis so he needs to get his jollies somehow and shooting animals, I expect, makes him feel like a real man - obviously that’s not how the majority of the population view it or indeed, makes him a real man.

StarlightLady · 07/08/2023 12:03

This would be a deal breaker for me.

HowcanIhelp123 · 07/08/2023 12:03

I wonder how many people that say they 'draw the line at murdering animals' are meat eaters!

Look OP, in some areas everyone hunts. Hunting is controlled and regulated. To have a licences they have to do A LOT. Several of my husbands family hunts. They can only hunt in certain seasons, can only hunt certain things each year and a certain amount, can tell pretty much instantly if the animal they're stalking has young even if not with them because they know the signs. They are not allowed to hunt animals with young. They bring back and stock the freezer with what they hunt to eat.

They keep the population under control (if too many are left because unhunted several would die a long slow death of starvation which is much more cruel), and its as free range meat as you can get.

Responsible hunters, fully licenced, follow all rules, eat what they kill, are not a problem. Trophy hunters are.

sugarsherbet · 07/08/2023 12:04

Can I add as well with all due respect your mad starting a thread on here about this and a bit naive. There is such a HUGE divide similar to fox hunting where it often turns violent and people get hurt from protesting ect. I'm not giving my view either way but if I was you I'd delete the thread and make up your own mind.

JFDIYOLO · 07/08/2023 12:04

The unspeakable in pursuit of the uneatable' (Oscar Wilde on fox hunting)

My first thought was, if it's pheasant etc and he knows how to do it humanely, clean and prepare and cook it to eat, then no problem. A decent wild-lived life and a clean end for a good reason. Better than battery farming and abbattoirs and a sanitised supermarket package that glosses over the fact that this had to happen so you could eat it. I'm a vegetarian, for context.

But that … God no. Vile people, so often pictured gloating over their kills which lived a trapped life and can't be eaten.

Utter deal breaker, suggesting something's wrong in his mind.

dawngreen · 07/08/2023 12:05

And the killing the unhealthy, and old is totally rubbish told to shut ppl up. Its big money, bigger than the tourist trade. Some are even bred for the sick business, and of course they don't talk about that!

Bananabedhead · 07/08/2023 12:06

These big game animals can be bred for canned hunts. Animals are over bred and reared badly before being shot in a confined area. Anyone who wants to kill for the pure enjoyment of a kill would be a big no for most people.
(No I'm not a veggie and would eat game, but don't eat much meat because I pay a premium for it depending on farming practice/source. If my personal ethics matter to anyone)

skgnome · 07/08/2023 12:06

Just adding to the - no, no, no
shooting as a sport, fine
target practice fine
animals, as a big meat eater would be hypocritical to say no, but unless is something that would be then eaten, feels wrong - but if he’s from a big farmer community and it’s small animals- would be a grey area for me
elephants and lions in a controlled reserve - that crosses the line way too far for me - way too many lines in fact

SapphireSeptember · 07/08/2023 12:07

helloelsie · 07/08/2023 11:02

Do you know how elephants live in families and mourn and grieve when they experience death of loved ones like we do? They bury their dead and they try to help dying friends, lifting them with tusks and trunks and crying out in distress.
They also carry their babies for two whole years before giving birth, they are such precious and sacred animals and need to be protected - how can you support someone who is happy to tear apart their lives, families and happiness OP? This is utterly brutal.

Big cats too. So beautiful, endangered, we should be respecting life. Not destroying it!

Huge NO from me. Your partner makes me feel physically sick and I couldn't be in a room with someone like that. I feel like crying just knowing what he will be doing and that there are innocent beautiful animals alive right now who have no idea that soon he is going to come along and kill them, take their lives and rip their families apart. God help them.

Exactly. Elephants are very intelligent creatures, the kind of people who want to kill them for fun make my blood boil. I love elephants. No way would I be with man. (Sounds like the elephants have more emotional intelligence here.) Even lions have to be really desperate to attack elephants.

theemmadilemma · 07/08/2023 12:08

Big game would be a massive no from me.

DH hunts wild boar in France. It's a long tradition, it's done well, and every scrap is used and shared amongst the team. Since I eat meat, and they are hunting and eating the meat, I'm fine with that.

Hunting big game animals for a photo - sick.

Chesneyhawkes1 · 07/08/2023 12:09

If he eats what he shoots, that's fine.

dawngreen · 07/08/2023 12:10

Hunting banned - still they dig up cubs for practise, and plenty of young get ripped apart!

RoadSignFool · 07/08/2023 12:10

liveforsummer · 07/08/2023 11:00

@FictionalCharacter I'd assumed it was the size of the shoot that was big rather than the animals. Clearly I was wrong and wtf. Yes this would be a deal breaker now op has updated

Me too, I read it exactly like that as I had no idea Big Game shooting was legal anywhere in the world anymore.

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