DH inherited a house. It’s lost in the middle of nowhere, needs a lot if work to be done (estimate is around the £100k mark). He wants to move there and sell our house to finance the work.
I don’t. Plenty if reasons for that that I’ve explained at length to DH.
Now during our last discussion, I’ve asked him to come up with a plan. Can he tell me what would happen if we rent our current house instead? What other ways to finance the work? Can he show me he has thought about my (physical in particular) needs when planning the whole thing.
The thing is DH is notoriously incapable of planning anything. I’ve been the one to lead all big changes during the whole if the marriage (from moving house to redecorating, organising hols, schools for the dcs. The lot). So nothing has happened in the last 3 months since our discussion.
im tempted to just leave him to it but I know he’ll be resentful that his big project won’t come to life. And tbh, he IS happier when he has spent time there. And I feel like I’m nit being supportive of him at all by refusing to engage and putting all the responsibility/work into him.
On the other side, it’s HIS project. I’m not keen so I don’t want to be leading that project.
What would you do?