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Message from woman

113 replies

Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:45

Let's be honest here, it's never a good sign when you receive a Facebook message from another woman saying, I have something to tell you. I mean we all know where that's going to lead?

Just now waiting to hear back about what this information is.

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Mammyloveswine · 28/07/2023 17:46

Could be a total hacker scam!

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:47

Really something so personally written? With kisses at the end?

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spartanrunnergirl · 28/07/2023 17:49

Scamming in the way is known. Do you know the woman/are there mutual friends?

GreyCarpet · 28/07/2023 17:50

Scammers/hackers have an x on their keyboard too...

Hackers give just enough to entice you to reply without actually telling you anything.

Pinkbonbon · 28/07/2023 17:50

Well i wouldn't expect kisses from someone ehos writing to tell you she has been shagging your husband lol.

Probably someone claiming to be a fortune teller or some ther scam.

GreyCarpet · 28/07/2023 17:51

What did the message say?

I have something to tell you... xxx type thing?

I'd ignore that and assume it's a scam. If you've got something to tell me, just tell me.

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:53

Its a woman I loosely know. But what do they gain from sending a message like that if its a hacker?

I'm not the most tech savvy person here so forgive me if it's an obvious question

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isitaline97 · 28/07/2023 17:53

What does her profile look like? Reverse image search her profile picture on google to see if it's just a generic pic she's stole offline

Pinkbonbon · 28/07/2023 17:55

Dunno yet. Maybe they're going to get you to join their pyramid scheme. And think someone you recognise might persuade you.

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:55

I know who she is, and it's a legitimate profile. I think it more caught my attention as she lives in London in an area my partner was working away at a few month's ago.

And it was a how are you, I have got something I need to tell you xx

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TwinsPlusAnotherOne · 28/07/2023 17:56

The kisses are odd

Hummusanddipdip · 28/07/2023 17:56

If you vaguely know her, she could be telling you anything
"I've met a Prince who wants to whisk me away to live with him, but I need to find £20k to live with him, help me?"

Or in the case if a friend of a friend "I'm stuck in x village and have no money to get home, can you send me £20 for a taxi" in reality he wanted money for drugs...

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:57

Hopefully it's all a scam, I think I'm just very cautious as my ex was a total nob and I used to get legitimate messages from women about him

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Pinkbonbon · 28/07/2023 17:58

Hmm...the xxxs are strange.

But maybe she's trying to show solidarity or something...cause she's about to tell you she saw your partner out with someone...

Pinkbonbon · 28/07/2023 17:58

Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:57

Hopefully it's all a scam, I think I'm just very cautious as my ex was a total nob and I used to get legitimate messages from women about him

Does she know you aren't with that guy anymore?

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:59

See this is what my concern is, that the xxx is trying to be friendly and show she's trying to be kind. And then I'm going to get the shit show of your partner hooked up with someone I know or so on

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:00

She should do, we split up about 8 years ago and my new partner is on my social media as we've been together a fair while, going on 5 year's

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BayandBlonde · 28/07/2023 18:02

Just reply asking her what is it she has to tell you.

Pinkbonbon · 28/07/2023 18:04

Yeah its not ideal...unless she's going to say she is dating your ex and he has wronged you in some way. Eg: has pics of you.

Sorry, new fear unlocked.

It's just, you already know he was a bastard tbf.

ExtraOnions · 28/07/2023 18:06

My niece got hacked, and I got loads of messages like this (from her account) mostly ended in them trying to get me to buy bitcoin.
I get ones that say “look at my new baby” with a picture of a flash car on … it’s laughable, and the last kind of car my niece would have

PTSDBarbiegirl · 28/07/2023 18:09

Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:53

Its a woman I loosely know. But what do they gain from sending a message like that if its a hacker?

I'm not the most tech savvy person here so forgive me if it's an obvious question

Hacker messages can be like this. I had one recently that had cloned a friend's account. Just delete any response incase they start mining your data.

maddiemookins16mum · 28/07/2023 18:12

I got a ‘’look at this video of us xx’ from a distant contact. She’d been hacked.
Ignore and change your passwords.

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:13

Well I did respond as I wanted to know what they were on about. But they haven't been online since.

It just seems off. But at least it's got the potential of being a hacker, although I'm not sure. I'll just twiddle my thumbs, and make up fake scenarios until I get a response

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porridgeisbae · 28/07/2023 18:16

Of course you shouldn't ignore unless you want to potentially live in ignorance for life.

I think your assumption about it is probably accurate.

If it is a hacker or something then replying isn't harmful, just don't click on any links they might send.

determinedtomakethiswork · 28/07/2023 18:17

It's not going to be a hacker. They would have spun you a story about a lost credit card or similar.

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