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Message from woman

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 17:45

Let's be honest here, it's never a good sign when you receive a Facebook message from another woman saying, I have something to tell you. I mean we all know where that's going to lead?

Just now waiting to hear back about what this information is.

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:18

Oh no I wouldn't click on any links. Just when I've had scam messages sent to me before it's usually a link to click on.

Not I've got something to tell you. Well if it is the worst case scenario I just appreciate being told and not living my life like an utter mug.

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AquamarineGlass · 28/07/2023 18:19

The wait must be pretty torturous.

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:20

It's horrible, I just want a reply so I know if I'm slinging bin bags of clothes out my front door. Or telling a hacker to f off

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WhateverMate · 28/07/2023 18:24

What's your relationship like with your partner OP?

I'm just thinking if this happened to me, the last thing I would think of is that my DH was cheating.

I'm not sure what I'd think tbh, but it really wouldn't be that.

Dogsitterwoes · 28/07/2023 18:24

I think it's a lead in to a cringey pyramid sales thing. First see if your profile is live
Then it'll be something like her discovering the secret shortcut to this summer's bikini body is to run yourself with her special aloe Vera at £30 a bottle. The whole 'secret' build up is part of it, supposed to make you feel you're being let into something exclusive.

If someone's shagged your husband, they'd just tell you.

namechange0998776554799000 · 28/07/2023 18:25

Definitely a scam. I got the same from my aunt but they'd cloned her account, it wasn't actually her

isitaline97 · 28/07/2023 18:27

It's not a new friend request you've received is it OP? I had one recently friends profiles are being cloned then they add you with the cloned profile. I got a message like 'hello how are you doing?' A few weeks ago and checked with the actual friend and it was not them but a cloned account that added me!

GreyCarpet · 28/07/2023 18:27

I've had one recently from a few friends who've been hacked - Look who died! xx Type messages.

It looks like it's come from them but hasn't.

TaigaSno · 28/07/2023 18:28

Wonder why she didn't just tell you whatever it is in the first message. Saying she has something to tell you then disappearing is just annoying.

Hawkins0001 · 28/07/2023 18:29

Could be fishing for information to see if you guess it's about x for them to know if you know or what you know about x information.

Thehonestybox · 28/07/2023 18:29

I vote scam too. Otherwise why didn't she just say what it was she needed to tell you?

UnfinishedUserna · 28/07/2023 18:30

Hopefully it's just some pyramid scheme nonsense for you OP! Nothing like leaving you hanging!!

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:31

Good relationship very close, usual Fallings out now and then but very loving.

I usually trust him, have no issues with him going out or anything like that. I think it's just being deceived in the past makes me more guarded and I no longer put anything past people.

And most of the times I found out about infidelity is this way, when a friend of the person tells you. And like I said it's more they are from the area he was working away at.

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:32

No not a new request a long standing friend from school. So like I said loosely know them. As in we're not in touch, but I know they are a real person

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Theunamedcat · 28/07/2023 18:33

I had one from my friend hey hun how are you everyone ok? I said yes chatted randomly then it got weird....have you put ur postcode into this >randomink< I got over a thousand pounds and I think you can win too! Ummm what? Then there were follow up Messages getting irate turns out she had been hacked I fell for it until the follow up messages its just the sort of thing she would send (and I wouod never click on) copied her speech patterns right down to the hun/ur etc

Be careful

AquamarineGlass · 28/07/2023 18:33

I mean it could be about a school reunion then? Or sad news about the passing of someone from school?

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:38

Yes that's true could be any of those. I just go to worst case. I'll just have to wait it out. And see if anything comes back.

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ditalini · 28/07/2023 18:39

I've got friends who just automatically put kisses at the end of all their messages. It's an irritating tic.

"I'll meet you at 8 xx"
"I got a new job xx"
"Dave's shagging the bloke next door - gutted xx"

I'd say pyramid scheme or other scam is fairly likely though.

HundredMilesAnHour · 28/07/2023 18:42

It's a scam. Happens semi-frequently on FB. Someone has hacked her account. It won't actually be from her. She'll probably post in a few days that her account was hacked.

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:44

Thank you all, I feel a little bit more reassured. As I said usually I wouldn't have any concerns trusting him. But equally I'm not narrow minded. Hopefully I'll get a stupid link, and then I can relax and laugh at how irrational I've been

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WhateverMate · 28/07/2023 18:45

AquamarineGlass · 28/07/2023 18:33

I mean it could be about a school reunion then? Or sad news about the passing of someone from school?

Exactly!

I can't believe the OP's even started this thread and leapt to such conclusions.

scrantonelectriccity · 28/07/2023 18:49

I can't believe the OP's even started this thread and leapt to such conclusions.

She did say she used to receive messages telling her that her ex had been cheating so it's understandable she might be worried it's happening again

Buildingthefuture · 28/07/2023 18:53

I think it is a scam. And, on the very slim chance that it’s not….it would be incredibly rude and manipulative to drop something like that on you then make you wait? It’s either a scam or she’s a lunatic. In both cases, ignore. And I totally understand why you started the thread…it would give me pause too!

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Whatapickle07 · 28/07/2023 18:56

Not a conclusion I was asking a question. If you read mumsnet enough you'll realise it's really not a stretch for someone to message you. As I said partner had worked away and it was the same area.

But I'm going to assume that no one has ever treated you that way so can live with the rose tinted glasses that it doesn't happen.

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BadNomad · 28/07/2023 18:56

If it's not a scam then it's someone wanting to cause drama because why else would she send a message like that? If you wanted to tell someone their partner cheated, you would put it in the first message. Not send a clickbait-type of message to cause anxiety first then go offline for hours.

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