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He spat in my face

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 02:35

That's it really. Spoken to an officer and I feel like a complete drama queen because he didn't hurt me. please help me.

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BingoBastards · 23/07/2023 02:36

😬 out of the relationship, instantly.

Sorry this happened 💐

orangeleavesinautumn · 23/07/2023 02:40

That is clearly the end of the relationship.

Do you live together? If so, who owns the property/tenancy - who is moving out, him or you? Are there childen?

greenspaces4peace · 23/07/2023 02:40

no excuse, hard line, end.

orangeleavesinautumn · 23/07/2023 02:41

we are assuming this is a partner?

orangeleavesinautumn · 23/07/2023 02:41

(ex partner)

HerAvatar · 23/07/2023 02:42

He didn't hurt you this time OP, but what about next time? Spitting in your face shows such utter contempt and disrespect for you that you can't risk hanging around to see how much further he could go. Where is he now, are you safe tonight?

Anaemiafog · 23/07/2023 02:55

He did hurt you...

Sycasmores · 23/07/2023 02:59

The hills are that way - run! You are not being dramatic. You didn't deserve it. There's no coming back from being spat on. Run...then find a therapist.

Maloneyb · 23/07/2023 03:01

Leave his disgusting disrespectful backside.

Gracewithoutend · 23/07/2023 03:03

That is absolutely disgusting. It's a form of assault. And I hardly ever say split up with partners because it's so difficult but that would be it for me. Strangely, I think its worse than being hit. The absolute contempt and disregard that shows is awful.

Groutyonehereagain · 23/07/2023 03:03

Dear god, that’s it, there’s no way back from that. I’m so sorry. 💐

BingoBastards · 23/07/2023 03:04

I'm impressed you spoke to an officer. This happened to me with an ex but I got dragged back in. BIG mistake.

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:06

Thank you so much everyone. I have awful boundaries but we have a DD 8. It makes it ro much worse and I feel stupid calling police. They're coming tomorrow and now I don't know what to say. He'll lose his job .

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Gracewithoutend · 23/07/2023 03:11

You're not stupid calling the police. He is beyond revolting. And ot won't be the first time he's spat people. Losing his job is a consequence of his actions, not yours.

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:12

Do I clear glass up or leave it for tomorrow? Children away and he's taken our dog even after I said not to I'm the actual owner. Told Police the dog is fine with him. No children at home tonight. I can't believe this is happening.

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Gracewithoutend · 23/07/2023 03:14

Blimey. There's broken glass, too? I'd leave it if there's just you there. I'd take photos myself and leave it for the police to see tomorrow so they can see the full extent of what happened.

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:15

Gracewithoutend · 23/07/2023 03:03

That is absolutely disgusting. It's a form of assault. And I hardly ever say split up with partners because it's so difficult but that would be it for me. Strangely, I think its worse than being hit. The absolute contempt and disregard that shows is awful.

That's how I feel. And it came from nowhere. He just kept laughing at me.

I asked what I'd done wrong and he couldn't answer. Just kept saying 'ask yourself that'

I really didn't do anything.

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:16

Felt like I was going crazy. I genuinely didn't do anything. I even tried to sort it out. I don't understand it.

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:18

Laughing at me saying 'oooh I've been raped'.

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Fraaahnces · 23/07/2023 03:21

Did he also rape you? If he did, I’m so very sorry. You might start to minimize this to make it easier for you to cope, but you need to ask why he was so defensive. Consent is vital. It sounds like he knows what he’s done.

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:22

it was a long time ago but even so. Do people really do this? I can't believe it. He's the only person who ever made me feel loved..

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Iamclearlyamug · 23/07/2023 03:23

That is utterly revolting.

And making jokes about being raped too? Vile. You cannot stay with him - and who gives a fuck if he loses his job? He should have thought of that before being such a disgusting excuse for a human being.

Protect your kids and get away from this disgrace ASAP 🤬🤬

BingoBastards · 23/07/2023 03:24

Have you photographed the glass?

I'm not sure he's capable of love. How difficult are the logistics of splitting?

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:27

Thank you so much. No i haven't but I've left it there because there is no one else home. I'm so in shock. I just wanted one person to be nice to me.

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Iamridiculous · 23/07/2023 03:30

I've taken a photo but not sure how to share it. Its just couple of broken bottles x

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