By the time I go to bed tonight I'll know whether my marriage is over...

[FAQ]

and am dreading it. DH and I are going to "chat" tonight about what is going to happen.

I want to go back to Relate and reach a compromise on the things which are causing the issues - before I went away he told me point blank he wouldn't go back.

I need to explain to him that me doing things "his way" - wouldn't actually stop the arguments/stop me getting frustrated but actually make it worse

If he still refuses to even consider compromises then we'll be finished .

Really dreading it (the chat) and wish I was still back up in Edinburgh.

The Balmoral is lovely but if you come again make sure you book into the Witchery....it is the most romantic place I have ever stayed. It is where DP proposed to me !!

It is expensive but well worth the money. We have been three times but I could stay there permanently!!!

Oh come everyone...lets have a huge meet-up at Festival time....

I so hope it goes well for you, FAQ!

We are back in Edinburgh ourselves, but alas too late, over the St. Pat's weekend.

Festival meet-up sounds FABULOUS!

Reason for Balmoral was proximity to Waverley Station for me. 'Twas lovely anyway!

I'm totally game for coming up.

back in a minute - need a rollie

ta da!

Have a look at my dog on my profile to make you feel warm and fuzzy. I've only just put him on there so am needing someone to tell me how incredibly gorgeous he is please.

Yes, Festival meet sounds brill!

Why, because the ILs have their holiday booked and we'll be going through an entire week to look after their dogs. We are having their house for a whole week!

BLISS! In our dreams we'd have a house like theirs for our own!

But we'll take what we can get .

Oh Flowery....soooo cute!!!

Ok ladies...a Festival meet-up is on the cards.....lets do it!!!!!!

Sorry faq I don't understand how childcare arrangements are impossible for you to go to Relate on your own, but not if DH comes too? Can't you just use the same arrangments? Although I do agree that it would be more constructive for you to go together and your DH's refusal is rather telling.

I want to do it!

First week of August is when we are there.

The house is in Trinity, so I'll be centrally located and well-poised to travel .

Logging off now, do not organise this without me!

First week in August sounds good to me!! Am hoping that we will have sold our house and be back in town by then.......I soooo love to be able to walk to all the pubs....and swagger back again!!

Just a short taxi ride for me, Karen!

Name the place! I'll be sober at setting off, so will be good and take a bus

bozza - because if I go on my own I'll need to take the bus and walk from town, if we go together it only takes 20 minutes in the car - so getting there and back (excluding the session) would only take 40 minutes if we go together, as opposed to 2hrs 40 minutes on my own on the bus.....

Right Festival meet-up it is then

Your DH wouldn't give you a lift then?

I doubt it..........I'm 99.99% certain that he'd be of the attitude "if you want to go, sort it out yourself".......

Says a lot doesn't it that he wouldn't support you?

Any progress?

Who would mind the boys when dh & you would go?

Could the same person not mind them if you went alone?

His attitude speaks volumes, but I suspect you already know that!

Only progress has been towards definite separation (permanent).

WoS - the friends who could mind them if I went alone have their own child pick-ups/drop offs to do and they don't have cars big enough to fit all my lot and there's in - if we went on our own (which we're definitely not) it would take 2hrs less and we could fit it around their childcare commitments.

"charmingly" after earlier today telling me that if I decided to move to Edinburgh with the DS's (which is a vague possibility in the future - not straight away) I'd only be "thinking of myself and not of them" this evening he told me (in a very calm discussion we've just had) that he would give me the coach fare to get us back up to Edinburgh if I wanted to go straight away.......

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no - don't want to move up now - for starters don't want to mess DS1 around in his last term in yr2 and I've also got church commitments for Easter (I'm in charge of the Good Friday evening event....) which I can't let them down on. PLus other stuff which means I can't just up and leave town now.

Do you still love him after that?

What he is doing sounds like a form of abuse.

It's like he is saying "Here, have the money, but I know you won't do anything with it."

And it beats my why he would give you the money... isn't it both of yours?

I really feel for you right now.