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He's booked to go away for his birthday

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yetanothernamechange1987 · 28/06/2023 20:57

My bf of 6 months has booked 3 nights abroad for his birthday later this year.
His last birthday he did a city break abroad with his ex and the one before he did 5 nights in London with his ex.
I cannot do these things as I have 5 kids.
Aibu to be upset he's spending his birthday with his brother on holiday instead of with me?

OP posts:
Blondeshavemorefun · 29/06/2023 15:01

yetanothernamechange1987 · 28/06/2023 22:12

His birthday is at the end of the year.
I don't know what we could've done but I'm upset he didn't try and sort out anything with me.
I maybe could've got childcare but he just wanted to get away.

Maybe for childcare

From who

You said getting a babysitter is hard

Who on Earth would look after 5 kids unless gp or dad without it being a huge cost to you

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 29/06/2023 15:59

FayCarew · 28/06/2023 20:58

You've only been together 6 months and you couldn't go anyway. It's his birthday not yours.

Agree. I would hardly call six months "a relationship," even. You are dating. He's not obliged to revolve his entire life around you.

If I were dating someone for a few months and they griped because my sister and I planned a birthday outing, that would be a major dealbreaker.

Cas112 · 29/06/2023 16:11

You are.. he's allowed to do what he wants on his birthday

GreyCarpet · 29/06/2023 16:40

Ok so it would be complicated or probably a no go with the kids, but he didn't even bother to ask her.

If they don't get to go out much (which the OP has eluded to saying it's hard to find babysitters for 5 children) then it might be considered equally insensitive if he'd invited her knowing that she wouldn't be able to go.

If I'm honest, I'd say it's far more likely that he isn't sure they'll even be together by his birthday.

Besides, I wouldn't expect to be included in plans 6 months into the future when I'd been dating someome for 6 months.

GreyCarpet · 29/06/2023 16:40

Ok so it would be complicated or probably a no go with the kids, but he didn't even bother to ask her.

If they don't get to go out much (which the OP has eluded to saying it's hard to find babysitters for 5 children) then it might be considered equally insensitive if he'd invited her knowing that she wouldn't be able to go.

If I'm honest, I'd say it's far more likely that he isn't sure they'll even be together by his birthday.

Besides, I wouldn't expect to be included in plans 6 months into the future when I'd been dating someome for 6 months.

NBLarsen · 29/06/2023 16:50

yetanothernamechange1987 · 28/06/2023 21:57

Getting a babysitter is hard.
It's just he didn't even consider it.

He likely did consider it before deciding that only six months into the relationship he didn't want to spend his birthday with someone's else's five kids. If you're not able to get a babysitter it's unreasonable of you to expect him not to make other plans.
Frankly, only six months into the relationship, you sound like you are expecting too much of him.

howdoesyourgardengrowinmay · 29/06/2023 16:50

It's his birthday, not yours. Why shouldn't he plan to do what he wants instead of hanging out with you and 5 kids that aren't his.

Mad!

toddlermom99 · 29/06/2023 17:14

Why should he miss out just because you're unable to come because you have five children? You've only been together 6 months 🤯

greyhairnomore · 29/06/2023 18:52

SunflowerTed · 28/06/2023 21:00

Why have 5 kids?

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