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Card sent to husband by admirer

136 replies

Naz110 · 24/06/2023 23:58

Hey guys, so it was my husbands birthday and he got a birthday card in the post. In the card this person has stated they love him and he is their life, sunshine and he means the world to them. Me and husband got into a massive fight as the card has no name... he is saying he doesnt know who it is.. and his conscious is clear. He believes someone is stirring our relationship. Any advice would be great! I think he is being honest but why would someone send a birthday to a married man!

OP posts:
Indoboarder · 25/06/2023 22:08

GalileoHumpkins · 25/06/2023 21:22

Watched every episode of Midsomer Murders have you?

Grin and read every Agatha Christie novel.

cassiatwenty · 25/06/2023 22:11

@TongueTwistr why are you private messaging me? Confused

SeaSaltAir · 25/06/2023 22:19

Quite the U turn

RSintes · 25/06/2023 22:55

Naz110 · 25/06/2023 21:33

@RSintes
This is all making sense. You wouldn't have known his cousin's first language isn't English. I just wanted someone neutral to see the card and see how it pans out. Thank you

Aha! 🕵️‍♀️
Where's the cousin from then, out of interest? And why would they do something like this?

Amillionlovesongslater · 25/06/2023 23:43

Me and my friend sent a letter like that once to her next door neighbour just to see what would happen. (We were 13 and bored) perhaps it's just a silly prank.

Duckingella · 26/06/2023 00:04

Mistresses or former extra marital lovers don't tend to send stuff that's obvious and the wife will see unless their unhinged and even then they most likely wouldn't do it anonymously.

larkstar · 26/06/2023 00:54

The letter y's are quite distinctive - my wife Lewis last year's Christmas cards to help her compile a list of people to send to, plus the cards sometimes/often have their latest news in brief - do you have any old xmas cards to look at where you might find someone who uses an identical letter y?

Also, I notice they used a semi-colon - I use semi-colons and colons more than most people so I also wondered if the use of a semi colon in an old card or letter might help you identify the sender.

larkstar · 26/06/2023 01:37

Uh!? Lewis=keeps

iceoverhills · 26/06/2023 09:36

That is the handwriting of a young person - possibly a teenager. The content does not fit with the handwriting so I would guess they were trying to emulate what they think a much older person would say to a loved one.

Because the curls on the Y appear in the first instances, I would guess that these are contrived. Their natural way of writing Y comes out later when they are careless.

monsteramunch · 26/06/2023 09:48

iceoverhills · 26/06/2023 09:36

That is the handwriting of a young person - possibly a teenager. The content does not fit with the handwriting so I would guess they were trying to emulate what they think a much older person would say to a loved one.

Because the curls on the Y appear in the first instances, I would guess that these are contrived. Their natural way of writing Y comes out later when they are careless.

That's really interesting, I think it looks much more like the writing of an older (not old!) person as I recognise some of the style from relatives 50+.

Agree whoever wrote it looks like they're purposefully changing some elements of their writing style to avoid being recognised.

Bookworm20 · 26/06/2023 13:46

As the card has no to and from name in it, a long shot, but could it possibly be that the sender had 2 birthday cards to send out - one to your DH and one to their bf/gf, and after writing each and putting into envelopes wrote the wrong name and address on each. So their bf/gf got your dh's card, and he got the one meant for them?
And its confusing because it doesn't have the recipients name inside, where a mistake like this could be clearly rectified.
Unlikely I know, but you never know. If thats the case, is your dh missing a card from someone he normally gets one from? Or maybe the sender will ring up in next few days once they have spoken to the intended recipient and realised the mistake.

Or its a horrible prank, like others have said.
Or he has secret lover (either secret to him too, or just secret from you) although you've said this is highly, highly unlikely.

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