Card sent to husband by admirer

[Naz110]

Hey guys, so it was my husbands birthday and he got a birthday card in the post. In the card this person has stated they love him and he is their life, sunshine and he means the world to them. Me and husband got into a massive fight as the card has no name... he is saying he doesnt know who it is.. and his conscious is clear. He believes someone is stirring our relationship. Any advice would be great! I think he is being honest but why would someone send a birthday to a married man!

Thank you @Hawkins0001

Is it handwritten?

What exactly does it say?

Its definitely not his friends, we've been married to 8years plus and this has never happened. I just don't understand why someone would do this..

@morbidd it is handwritten.

And this is what is says exactly
'Happy birthday my love
You are my life, my sunshine and my everything.
Your mean the world to me
From your love'

It must be someone close for them to know it’s his birthday.

I had one of those once, sent to my workplace.

Signed. “Puma Girl”

i didn’t know any girls who drove a Puma, it was the subject of much discussion in the workplace for years.

It happens.

So it's someone who knows him well enough to k ow his birthday, name and address. Is the postmark nearby

It's the not signing it that is weird — if it were signed I'd think it was somebody a bit theatrical/gushy. They must know your husband reasonably well to know his address and birthday.

I disagree with your last sentence though. I send birthday cards to several married men. It's still nice to get cards from friends when you have a wife and children...

@Heyln there is a family member on his side im suspicious on. Our relationship is great we really get on, I have access to his phone anytime, we go out his phone is connected to the car etc.. like he hasn't been acting differently and has been out of a job for the past 8months so we've been spending alot of time together. It's just upsetting to know people really go out of the way to create problems.

Oh cross-posted with your last one. They're signing it "your love" which is a bit more worrying.

@PolkadotsAndMoonbeams the problem isnt really the card. The written message inside is.

It's just upsetting to know people really go out of the way to create problems.

If you trust him, just carry on as before. Don't let it get to you. Don't give them the satisfaction.
A teaching colleague of mine once found a gushing handwritten note professing love on her car windscreen.Freaked us all out for a week or so until it transpired that it was the dad of one of the children she taught!HT had a stern word, he apologised, it didn't happen again.I know its not exactly the same but some people are fucking weird!

Why are you jumping to the conclusion the persons motivation is to cause a rift in your relationship? Unless you have enemies this is a strange first thought for him to have.
Its surely more likely, if you've no reason to think you've upset anyone, that the sender has feelings for your husband?
How that may have come to be the case is another question, and really comes down to either he's in some sort of situation with someone, or it's unsolicited.
If it's unsolicited then it's unusual, unless he comes into contact with vulnerable women or is unusually attractive.
I'm surprised he can throw no more light on it than assuming it's malice. I think in your position I'd want to know more what makes him think he'd be the target of a trouble maker.

@madeofcheeze exactly what I said! But he is pulling his hair out and saying he has no idea who it is!

@TongueTwistr so the card is from card factory however this sad person didn't use the envelope with the card. They went and brought another envelope so it looks like a genuine letter. Posted it 1st class and it didn't come from the area I'm from. Came from a town 30miles away from me, i know this because of the stamp. When he opened it, he passed it over to me and was like how strange..

How come he left his job? Could it be an old colleague/client?

If you've no other reason to doubt him then I'd just ignore it. There's some weird people about. That said, I'd be keeping my eyes open for anything suspicious

Who is the person you are suspicious of and why?

@Heyln

someone he's having an affair with isn't going to send a card like that unless she's totally unhinged.

someone thinking they have 'a strong relationship' means nothing.

@Naz110 his mum? Friends on a wind up, student if he's a teacher/tutor. Babysitter. Sounds like a dappy teenager.

It’s obviously a secret admirer. If it was a mistress she would hardly send a card to his home address

It's weird that it was sent in a regular envelope and 30 miles off. They've gone through an effort to do this. It could be to wind you up or someone actually fancies him and is unhinged.

When I was a lot younger someone at work used to leave a red rose on the windscreen of my car in the works car park every Tuesday evening. It was the one evening in the week when I worked late. It really creeped me out because the person knew when I was pretty much on my own in a deserted lab, and being happily married I didn't like the idea I might have inadvertently encouraged someone. In the end I took one of the roses and put it carefully on the concrete bumper thing at the end of the car park space. That seemed to do the trick as I never got another.

People can be very odd.

I would assume it was a prank. I have an elderly relation who would do something like this and think it was hilarious.

And it was addressed exactly to him?

That is weird. What is the handwriting like?
Neat?
Large and loopy?
A scrawl?
Could you possibly recognise it?