Subtle signs of an affair

[FitzFarseer]

What are the sutble signs of an affair?

Just wondering. The thought that DH was having an affair came to me out of nowhere and I have no idea why. 18 years in.

Hi 5128gap, my wife exhibited all of the things you mentioned and many other things, too. When her cheating came to light I was absolutely devastated, but she’s been gone for some time now and I feel cleansed.

Were your worries/instincts correct @FitzFarseer?

Cleaning his teeth before going out for a drink with friends.

Goodness, isn't this basic/standard hygiene? I wouldn't be with someone who didn't always do this.

‘Helping a friend’

Intuition, intelligence and instinct.

If you're not sure, act like you're unaware but be watchful.

WishesPromises
Very succinctly put and excellent advice.
I didn’t know any of this stuff why would I ? Never considered I’d be cheated on until I was cheated on and I think that’s the same for most people.However, I realise now there are red flags to look out for in a partner, they may be very subtle, but they are usually there.

Placing phone screen down.

I'm going through this right now. I can't work out if it's me being paranoid (I'm a very anxious person!) or if there is something going on. My husband is definitely falls into the "he would never do it" category.

Over the past couple of months I've just had a gut feeling that something has changed but also everything can be explained?! So my head is all over the place. I also talked to him about it and how I was feeling and he said I have nothing to worry about.

He worked late a few nights but this was explained (and I believe) because he had a very important visit by someone higher up at work. He works different shifts at work too so I have no idea if he's telling me the truth about what his hours are.

He's definitely more defensive when we argue (this he has no explanation for).

One day he came home just smelling of sweat (but the kind of sweat you have after having sex). He said he'd just had a wank.

He's always been quite defensive of his phone. I've had a nose and can't find anything at all.

I recently got a yeast infection out of the blue.

I think I'm going mad! I just wish I knew one way or the other!!

He came home smelling of sex and said he had "just had a wank"??? Where he hell was he - and who does that?

Sorry but that's not normal.