Would you split if it meant losing the lot?

[CowBedding]

Don't love him anymore. Not sure he even likes me that much. But we rub along OK. No fights. Sometimes we make each other laugh. But we are co habiting. I'm mid 30s. And he annoys me. A lot. I think I have the ick.

Problem is he's pretty much the SAHP. Does some part time work occasionally but hes mainly at home. DC are in primary school. He does drop offs and pick ups and some cooking. He doesn't do much of anything else though. Never cleans.

I work full time. Pay for everything. Manage everything. I'm home to do dinner/bath/bed. I'm basically a single mum with a bit of help in the mornings.

He has none of his own money. He is trying to be a writer at the moment

Would you leave a loveless marriage in this situation? The kids would be distraught. I do all the bad dreams, the homework, the cuddles. But on paper he's the primary carer. He says he gave up work to be at home!!

Would you risk everything else good in your life to not be in a rubbish relationship?

His question is a perfect opportunity for you to text him a thoughtful '"answer" to his question.

You can say write that it would be great for him to get ANY job to contribute to the pot as being at home doing NOTHING isn't good for him..the children are at school, you are there to pick them up, that work would be good for him and his mental health and for meeting people...

Frame it like it is just supportive of him returning to work etc.

It’s now January OP what’s happened

Well, I'm hoping she took his playstation to work with her and 'lost it' or better still, sent him back to his mother seeing he behaves like a 14 yr old.

Any update @CowBedding ? I hope you managed to stick to your plan.

In your situation I would not leave the children. I would move out with the children. He isn't a stay at home parent. He's just a bloody lump who doesn't pull his weight.