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Been blocked (I think)- feel unreasonably sad!

59 replies

lotusx · 09/06/2023 14:28

I was dating a guy for a short while, around 10 weeks. We left things on good terms (or so I thought!). He was leaving the country to work away for an undetermined length of time. A bit gutting because he ticked all my boxes but life happens. We left the door open so if we were both single when he got back, we may date again but that was that for now. We last saw each other on Friday and he left the country on Saturday, on Monday I tested positive for Covid and thought I best give him the heads up since we’d been in close contact and he has some health conditions that make him eligible for antivirals. I went to message him on WhatsApp and he was online but I got sidetracked when I was typing my message as the phone rang. When I went back to finish messaging him I noticed I could no longer see his last online status so I presume I’ve been blocked.

To be honest I was already feeling a little bit down about things ending but now I feel hurt about suddenly being blocked. I only block people in extreme circumstances so I feel bad that I’ve done something that he warrants being block worthy! I’m a people pleaser and hate the thought of upsetting people so this is making me feel awful! 😓

OP posts:
YoSof · 10/06/2023 13:05

supercali77 · 10/06/2023 07:02

The photo does dissappear. I've just tried it between tablet whatsapp and phone WhatsApp. Though both are android...maybe iPhone version is different and keeps the photo but never updates?

It never used to do it, my (abusive!) ex used to block me weekly and the photo greyed out instantly.

The last time he did it before I got rid of him, the profile picture was visible for days until I clicked on it, and then it went grey even though I was definitely blocked and had been for a while. Maybe a glitch!

MaxwellCat · 10/06/2023 13:13

Disappears on mine straight away as well… iPhone

PicnicBunny · 10/06/2023 13:26

On your side. There is just no way of knowing how to behave in that chilled out/ let’s see what happens / zone. Keep it together and just be your usual sassy nice self. The person he knew when he was dating. I find a lot of friends turn into complete psychos (men and women!) - stalking and going online and playing mindgames by changing status but not replying…

Refuse to stalk. Refuse to play games. And as stupid as it sounds - if it was meant to be it will happen. I don’t know how, but the chemistry or soul or spiritually… it will work out. Go about being busy and don’t worry about it. Enjoy the sunny weekend.

(Failing that, write his name on a piece of paper and light a fire - put it on the barbecue and grill some food and invite over some friends and chant to Ed Sheeran… and say his name 3 times and the name of his first pet. Pour yourself a Long Island iced tea and sip it out of a big straw. That will bring him back online)

Livelifelaughter · 10/06/2023 14:17

OP I feel for you! I thought my ex had blocked me on social media so I called him to ask, it just seemed so out of character. Anyway he was mortified and explained he had removed his profile for a while ..I had been really upset, it felt stinging so I really understand how you feel.
Honestly, leave it a while and send a message in a week and then go live your life.
I am sorry there's been some unkind responses to your post.

thisthenthat · 10/06/2023 18:21

@YoSof @Snoozingagain it's crazy that it doesn't seem to be very well known.

I only found out as messaged a guy I had been on a few dates with and the two delivered ticks didn't appear - 2 days later still hadn't appeared but, like most people, I didn't think for a second I was blocked, firstly as I'd done nothing blockable and secondly as I could still see his pic. Was only when my sister asked if I'd clicked into his pic - that it immediately went to the grey avatar. Couldn't believe it! This information is not available online - only word of mouth 😂. She did say eventually it would grey out on its own - but I don't know the timeframe - days I think, rather than weeks.

Turns out the guy had a girlfriend. Lucky escape!

YoSof · 10/06/2023 21:23

thisthenthat · 10/06/2023 18:21

@YoSof @Snoozingagain it's crazy that it doesn't seem to be very well known.

I only found out as messaged a guy I had been on a few dates with and the two delivered ticks didn't appear - 2 days later still hadn't appeared but, like most people, I didn't think for a second I was blocked, firstly as I'd done nothing blockable and secondly as I could still see his pic. Was only when my sister asked if I'd clicked into his pic - that it immediately went to the grey avatar. Couldn't believe it! This information is not available online - only word of mouth 😂. She did say eventually it would grey out on its own - but I don't know the timeframe - days I think, rather than weeks.

Turns out the guy had a girlfriend. Lucky escape!

I know, I always thought seeing the profile picture meant I wasn’t blocked - it was only by chance I clicked on the profile picture that I noticed it greyed out and the penny dropped.

He was a twat anyway, glad he’s gone!

Smallonesaremorejuicy · 10/06/2023 21:30

tommyshelbysbunnit · 09/06/2023 17:01

Are you sure he's left the country?

This

Flyinggeesei234 · 12/06/2023 11:11

WunWun · 09/06/2023 18:05

Oh, I just clocked the username.

@WunWun what does this
mean please?

I’ve been trying to figure it out and can’t see which post it refers to.

WunWun · 13/06/2023 11:32

Flyinggeesei234 · 12/06/2023 11:11

@WunWun what does this
mean please?

I’ve been trying to figure it out and can’t see which post it refers to.

I was referring to the particularly ridiculous post by "goatbilly".

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