Help me catch him

[Darkdarknight99]

For all you master detectives out there....
NC for this one but longtime poster.

Long story short, I've suspected for a while that my partner of 18 months was lying to me about seeing another woman.

He's been behaving strangely in our communications all weekend, and my friend has just sent me an incriminating photo from the OW's social media.

Can anyone tell me where this place is? He's very manipulative and I suspect a master gaslighter, and unless I confront him with where I knew he was, I'll get nothing.

18 months? Just dump him and move on. Why are you putting in the time to do detective work? It sound like you are playing into his hands.

I think you should back off the OP. How can you make this sort of assumption!

I’m sorry to hear OP. Good luck when you confront him. Onwards and upwards - you’re going to be much happier going forward. X

Even if you confront him with evidence don't be surprised if if he still tries to lie and deny it. It's a weird pathological behaviour of men who lie and cheat that they just cannot tell the truth no matter what.

I did a visual search on the photo @Darkdarknight99 (right click on your photo then choose visual search and it brings up photos 'like it'). One of them came up with a Trip Adviser page on Catbells (as you suspected Derwentwater). I've posted the link (hopefully it'll work) CATBELLS LAKELAND WALK - 2023 What to Know BEFORE You Go (with Photos) (tripadvisor.co.uk)

Good luck.

@Darkdarknight99 Excellent, well done for dumping him. You'll find someone decent and are not wasting your life on this man :)

Oops, the trip adviser link takes you to the start of the photos - click through to the fourth photo.

Sometimes knowing all the facts, even though it’s hurtful at the time, help create a painful reminder to yourself to snap out of it if you find yourself missing the other person, or if they do try and come back with an apology later down the line. Keeping your head vs. listening to your heart and all that.

Well done OP, onwards and upwards.

(Cue multiple further pages of people saying "that's Derwentwater" or "Just LTB" rather than actually reading the thread.)

Well done OP!

It'll be a shock but you deserve so much better. No doubt he'll do the same to the OW eventually

You don't need ammunition, you've only been together 18 months. Just tell him that he's not your type and you're moving on.

@Darkdarknight99, well done for dumping this arrogant, manipulative Player. Stay strong if he tries to hoover you.

Consider informing the OW, as you both need STD tests.

Well done OP. You deserve better.

I'm really glad you found out now rather than have him continue to gaslight you. It's a horrible feeling but you will be much better off without him.

This. Who cares where he was or who he was with. Just dump him.

Why don’t people read a thread before posting? The OP HAS dumped him!

Hugs, OP, because however much in the right you are (and I am sure you are) it's still a shock to the system. Well done x

Glad you dumped the tosser!

Absolutely Derwentwater.

That is walla crag in the lake district 100%

Absolutely Dumped! Well Done!

Good grief, that all went down quickly 😳 Well done to OP for asking for help to identify the place. Everyone needs help now and then. Glad you managed to dump his sorry arse! 👏 Sending you hugs and all the good stuff. Be happy! 💐

I applaud you for having self respect and handling it with dignity. Onwards and upwards. It might not be 100% easy while you process it all but in time, he won't be a second thought to you.

If you have to go to this extent for someone you admit is a manipulative gaslighter, why don’t you just walk away instead of investing all this time, energy and emotions to prove he is cheating.

OP
Glad to hear you’ve given him the boot.

However..
Save yourself the drama next time and just break up with someone you don’t trust. You don’t need an iron clad reason to free yourself from someone.