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Stag do in Krakow

107 replies

Gigitb · 01/06/2023 20:44

DH went on a stag do to Krakow. I trust him or at least I did trust him. Married ten years, two children under three. I was fine with the stag as close friend but his behaviour on said stag do has been well awful.
Contacted once via message to say flight landed / heard nothing after that until the following night, almost 24 hours later, I get a notification at two in the morning his time with the bank informing me that their has been a cash withdrawal of three hundred euro from an ATM.
Why would my husband be lifting that sort of money at that time of night? I get a message this morning with a breezy sorry my phone battery died etc etc. I wrote back sharpish about the withdrawal. Nothing since.
My husband and his friends have always been lads lads but I thought I could trust him.

OP posts:
suburbophobe · 04/06/2023 03:07

I'm with a PP - so glad I'm single. Brought my son up alone too.

Sorry OP you're going through this, but hey! Stag holiday, watching football, going off to golf for a whole day? He's disgusting.

You need to find your inner woman warrior!

Chchchchchangesss · 04/06/2023 07:46

frozendaisy · 02/06/2023 16:17

My husband to be at that time so he was "the stag" ended up with a muddy vagina in his face on his eastern European stag weekend. I had absolutely no sympathy, he was horrified.

Yes I trusted him, still do. Stuff happens, money is spent, doesn't mean betrayal has happened.

I know I will get "flamed" you never know type, but I do know, I absolutely do, there is no way H would put his willy into a hooker's anything. He never has. Him and his little friends went to a London strip bar once they last one drink then came out feeling "a bit dirty".

So yes he might need the money to pay his way for whatever drinks and entertainment is going on. But that doesn't mean he is snorting coke and shagging hookers.

Don't go mad at first OP. Wait and see.

Your husband sounds absolutely grim, tbh.

MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 04/06/2023 13:21

Gigitb · 03/06/2023 22:19

Yes, I think I’m having a dawning reality that my DH is just not a very nice man. To the outside world he is - think excessive charm, flirty with work colleagues, always seen to be doing things but deep down he can be very cruel.
Since arriving back he has refused to talk about what happened on the stag or the money. He doesn’t overtly say I don’t want to discuss it, but he has cried, slammed a laptop shut in fury and cracked the screen and then went and golfed for seven plus hours. This is all in an effort to stop me asking and he will then buy me flowers day tomorrow and I will be forced into silence as who can be ungrateful for flowers.

How on Earth can you live like this?

Aikko · 04/06/2023 13:48

I'm sorry, it sounds like you are living with a man-child.

Time to buckle up and get serious.

MaterialGirl1978 · 04/06/2023 14:43

There is a lot of scam and rip off of the drunken UK stag goers in Krakow, he may be too embarrassed to talk about it. At least he retains a degree of macho delusion if you think he has been playing rather than has been played.

WorkHardPlayHard1 · 04/06/2023 15:27

Gigitb · 03/06/2023 22:19

Yes, I think I’m having a dawning reality that my DH is just not a very nice man. To the outside world he is - think excessive charm, flirty with work colleagues, always seen to be doing things but deep down he can be very cruel.
Since arriving back he has refused to talk about what happened on the stag or the money. He doesn’t overtly say I don’t want to discuss it, but he has cried, slammed a laptop shut in fury and cracked the screen and then went and golfed for seven plus hours. This is all in an effort to stop me asking and he will then buy me flowers day tomorrow and I will be forced into silence as who can be ungrateful for flowers.

You can be ungrateful about the flowers. It's an admission of guilt. Definitely you called him out on his behaviour and he will do ANYTHING except to admit it.
I would be worried about an STI as well as his treatment of women in general. That's rank.

GreyCarpet · 04/06/2023 16:22

He obviously got a private dance for that money, and is acting off because he may feel guilty about doing it or guilty for not actually telling you the truth.

This. I know this post was a couple of pages ago but I haven't read anything since which has changed my mind.

You know he got a private dance.

Hundreds of miles from home; with all his mates; someome who has behaved like a dick since he returned; someone who you're just realising isn't a very nice man...

He had a private dance. At least.

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