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Son's grandfather is taking me to court

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xx200xx · 26/05/2023 20:50

Hello,
So I'm currently in a refuge due to my sons father, we have been going through family court proceedings for a few months now and a non molestration was accepted and now going through child visitation proceedings. Contact between my son and his father is going to be going ahead but when judges decided what's the best approach. My son is 1 year old.

However my ex partners father has just applied for court also to try and take me som. He's accusing me of child abuse ans neglect. His concerns are that he has not seen my child for 10 weeks and he don't know where I am. My sons father and grandfather live together and have definitely teamed up now to try and get my son. The grandfather has said I neglected my son since birth and I did cocaine on a daily basis. This is all lies. They would all tell me how much of a good mother I am.

Social services even said they had no concerns over me. I'm just so worried now because the grandfather is trying to take me son away from me. I now need another CAFCASS interview even tho I'm already going through the proocedings of this.

Any advice please??? I'm so scared

OP posts:
Iyiyiiii · 27/05/2023 13:04

MeinKraft · 27/05/2023 09:45

I don't think half of mums with babies are doing cocaine on nights out.

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@ClusterFuckIt said "Half the world"

I agree not even half the mums with babies are....

Pinkbonbon · 27/05/2023 15:57

Just another bully trying to throw his weight around. It'll be seen for exactly what it is, don't worry too much on it.

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xx200xx · 27/05/2023 21:01

Conkered · 27/05/2023 09:45

Have you got any close friends OP that are "clean" and really understand your situation? Lean on them too for support if you can. If not, have you had any counselling? Agree with pp that you would probably benefit from some trauma based counselling - it sounds like you're doing really well in anycase, but trauma can have a nasty habit of throwing things up for you when you least expect it. Especially if you're (rightly) throwing yourself into meeting your baby's needs, it can be easy to bury your own feelings/reactions to what has happened to you. Might be worth thinking about talking it all through with a professional to ensure you're processing everything in as healthy way as you can. Really wish you luck and continued strength x

I don't have any friends tbh, just people I speak to now and again. I'm condsidering counsling however at the moment I have no one to loom after my son during these sessions do it's more added stress and Thankyou x

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Conkered · 27/05/2023 23:49

That's really hard OP. I guess just keep it in the back of your mind for when you do eventually have some childcare. Might be worth chatting it over with your social worker and getting referred, as there may well be a long waiting list in anycase. By the time a slot becomes available you will hopefully be more settled and ready to process everything. Some counsellors will do sessions by email, which might be worth thinking about too, if that's a possibility for you.

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xx200xx · 28/05/2023 10:08

Conkered · 27/05/2023 23:49

That's really hard OP. I guess just keep it in the back of your mind for when you do eventually have some childcare. Might be worth chatting it over with your social worker and getting referred, as there may well be a long waiting list in anycase. By the time a slot becomes available you will hopefully be more settled and ready to process everything. Some counsellors will do sessions by email, which might be worth thinking about too, if that's a possibility for you.

Ahhh I will take a look at it. I'm not longer under social care so I don't have a social worker.

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Conkered · 28/05/2023 11:11

Maybe your gp then in that case? Or I think you can self refer now on the NHS website.

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