Just that really. Things have been crap for a while now. He's completely shut off from me. Most of the time he's on his phone, even when he's looking after our DS4. He's been on the sofa for months now, and has just said he sleeps better there and can't tell me if or when he'll be returning to the marital bed. Whenever we've talked about the state of our marriage it always ends up with him having a go at me for my faults. Faults including but not limited to, depriving him of sex (whilst recovering from a recurrence of Ptsd), talking to him disrespectfully, being too emotional, and being unhappy (although not saying so, therefore not nagging or criticising) about his financial decisions. He has said he doesn't want to divorce for our son's sake, but now is not saying what he does want. I have given him space, been very careful about what I say, have told him I love him and want to make it work, and from him? Nothing. So how long do I give him to decide what he wants? I don't want him to feel as if I am rushing him, but this limbo is like purgatory.