Page 5 | Help me get my head round sexting

Time4achange2 · 2023-05-17T09:33:55+00:00

Two people fancy each other, perhaps say flirting at work/in a social setting, take each others contact info....then randomly go on to send explicit sex chat and pics of their body parts to each other by phone/ social media etc even before a date or being in an established relationship? Why, just why and is this an age thing such as under 40's?

heartbroken40 · 18/05/2023 12:25

Sexting? Never
Flirting very very subtly where only you two understand it's actually flirting? 100%

The latter only happens once you know the person really well though (at least one year I would say)

If you're writing an article, I'm not sure it will be very interesting

treespouse · 18/05/2023 12:47

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 17/05/2023 11:08

"Why do people do this fun* and exciting thing?" I scream indignantly at the sky. There is not answer, only silence.

*If everyone is into it

Tee hee

JoanThursday1972 · 18/05/2023 12:56

MMmomDD · 18/05/2023 12:16

@Time4achange2

Are you writing an article? Or just bored?

Maybe it’s a generational thing. Maybe back in the day sex was a mean to get a husband or smth.
People these days don’t think of as sex only being appropriate in a long term committed relationships. Hence there are one night stands; hook ups, etc.
Not every sexual relationship needs to end up in some deep connection. And that is OK.
Sexting is part of the same attitude to sex - as sometimes being just for fun, while other time being meaningful.

And YOU don’t need to understand this or see the point. It doesn’t have to be for you - or something YOU want to do.
People are free to do what THEY want.

Agreed. But when expectations differ - such as meeting someone who's been used to sending pictures of their John Thomas to lots of women and then doesn't understand why you find it yukky - there are going to be problems. Being called prudish, frigid and stuck up for one.

MMmomDD · 18/05/2023 14:01

@JoanThursday1972

Of course. The other development since OP’s dating time is that consent needs to go both ways and women don’t need to put up with anything they don’t want.

But in the original post - OP was asking why do people consensually chose to be setting.

Barstools123 · 18/05/2023 14:09

Why do you think you NEED to understand op?

Original poster

Time4achange2 · 18/05/2023 16:48

Not writing an article. It is mere curiosity and surprise.

From a legal point of view anyone caught wolf-whistling will be punished with a two-year prison sentence under new government plans on street offences and upskirting is already a criminal offence. Surely the sending and receiving (and sharing) of graphic body part pics on a casual basis (which I would consider much worse) is open to abuse too. One party could claim it isn't consensual or what starts as innocent written flirting sexting then gets taken to the next stage. I just wonder if women particularly ever consider these risks and if the thrill/ lust/adventure is really worth it?

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Bargellobitch · 18/05/2023 16:50

It's not for me, but you absolutely are judging. If you're going to be judgemental just own it.

PaintedEgg · 18/05/2023 17:15

Time4achange2 · 18/05/2023 16:48

Not writing an article. It is mere curiosity and surprise.

From a legal point of view anyone caught wolf-whistling will be punished with a two-year prison sentence under new government plans on street offences and upskirting is already a criminal offence. Surely the sending and receiving (and sharing) of graphic body part pics on a casual basis (which I would consider much worse) is open to abuse too. One party could claim it isn't consensual or what starts as innocent written flirting sexting then gets taken to the next stage. I just wonder if women particularly ever consider these risks and if the thrill/ lust/adventure is really worth it?

judgemental much? 😜

in general a person reading a conversation will find it very easy to say whether consent was obtained - the beauty of texting is that the consent is literally in writing

also, I wonder how shocked you will be when you'll learn people have consensual, casual, actual physical sex 😜

JosieOhNo · 18/05/2023 17:19

But again, why the differentiation... "if women especially considered.."

Women can enjoy filthy pictures & text. They can send, and receive, and enjoy. You seem determined to conclude that this is a male activity.

JosieOhNo · 18/05/2023 17:21

if the thrill/ lust/adventure is really worth it?

Is the thrill of sex ever worth it? Hell yes!

Is the thrill of anything that somebody enjoys worth it? To them, yes!

Cakencookieobsessed · 18/05/2023 17:30

Time4achange2 · 18/05/2023 16:48

Not writing an article. It is mere curiosity and surprise.

From a legal point of view anyone caught wolf-whistling will be punished with a two-year prison sentence under new government plans on street offences and upskirting is already a criminal offence. Surely the sending and receiving (and sharing) of graphic body part pics on a casual basis (which I would consider much worse) is open to abuse too. One party could claim it isn't consensual or what starts as innocent written flirting sexting then gets taken to the next stage. I just wonder if women particularly ever consider these risks and if the thrill/ lust/adventure is really worth it?

Of course it's worth it. I love receiving pictures of boobs or a nice ass from my wife and sending my own and enjoying the fact that they liked my pictures. It's a massive turn on. Women can be visual too. If you don't want to risk them getting out there, don't put your face on them or don't send them at all but it's mad to not realise why lots of people find this exciting and satisfying.

MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 20/06/2023 21:33

piedbeauty · 17/05/2023 10:58

Do women ever send unsolicited tit or vulva pics? I doubt it.

Do men send unsolicited dick pics? All the time.

I can assure you that women do.