“Fat chicks are easy” discussion at work

[Jennyven]

So I work in male industry (IT) and today we were chatting about dating. I’m a bigger woman (size 18) and I’ve been trying to
lose weight but at the same time I don’t want to stop dating and don’t think I’m unattractive . However, my colleagues started chatting and they basically told me they would date bigger woman only if they want to have sex (in encouragement to lose weight - we are supporting each other and are very friendly). Apparently because they have lower self esteem and is easier to
play them. One of married colleagues basically said that if he would ever want to cheat only with big woman because they have lower standards and it would be easier keeping them quiet. I was upset, but also thought to myself that it’s probably partially true as I was the other woman few times (unwillingly and found out later and stopped immediately). I also have a tendency to get validation through sex. I also recently saw advert for bumble on Instagram of bigger lady and fit guy and thought to myself “wow they look happy”, but omg the comments from men were vile! Anyone’s thoughts? It really got me down today - so men really despite bigger women? I’m very athletic and just finished half marathon month ago, but I’m big

Yeah… cos you can’t get laid….. saddo incel freak. 😂

User5939393 My kindly felt and most gentle advice to you would be to get out there and meet lots of women and really listen to them. Women are not a thing apart, we're funny, clever, kind. We are not 'fertility' or 'petite' but living, breathing, sentient humans who will educate you, make you laugh until you cry and possibly love you and be equal to you in a way you don't seem possible to imagine. Lots of us earn our own money, raise our own children and have successful careers. You seem very narrow minded as though, forgive me, you get all your information about women from the kind of internet sites developed by people who have serious issues with women. A friendship with a woman regardless of her looks would open your mind to reality and make you happier.

Bloody makes my blood boil that men think fat women are worthless and we will take the scraps because of it. What they was discussing says more about their personality than it does about you or any fat women out there. I am a happy fat woman in a relationship with a man who goes the gym and is very fit. Screw their caveman thinking and report them to HR. You are worth more than any one of those arses.

I am a bit speechless about the incel's comments. I have just read Laura Bates book about incels, and this one is textbook!

I know @AzureBlue99!

‘very high sex drive’ i.e. I wank a lot.

Harsh. There's nothing wrong witnot being attracted to fat people. I'm not attracted to men with massive beer bellies. Doesn't mean I hate men or can't get a date. Men are allowed to have preferences too.

If I was a into girls i probably wouldn't look to date a woman over a size 14/16. I want to date emotionally and physically healthy people who are comfortable in their own skin. That's a struggle for many of an average weight, let alone a woman who is currently obese. Or a man who drinks so much that it shows up on his stomach.

Ops colleagues are utterly vile though. It's one thing to have a preference. It's another thing entirely to talk about individuals as if they are worthless or their value is determined by your preferences.

@Pinkbonbon

In fairness, I think that poster calling the other one a sad incel freak was doing so based on his later posts, which included the below, not the one they directly quoted.

Thats why I think its just easier to save money, keep working my bollocks off and then in my 30s using money to get myself a younger woman, mail order brides exist so I dont even need to chase women as I can just buy one. There is too much competition for women especially the ones I want (Slim/petite, childless but want kids and are not asexual or some bisexual vegan communist lol)

All that poster's contributions after the first ones are dripping with vile misogyny, incel brainwashing, entitlement and anger. Men holding his beliefs are in equal parts frightening and pathetic!

Eww haha yeah fair enough then xD

Lol 'I can just buy one' haha like going to tesco to pick up some spuds.

“I can just buy one” = I’m comfortable being a rapist abuser.

Apparently MN are cool with comments like above. @MNHQ - no response?

People are outraged that Labour don’t know what a woman is. Well let me tell you it’s the internet that you need to be really concerned about as no one listens to Starmer. So every time social platforms ie. MN let those comments go, they are doing wayyyyy more harm to women as they allow a platform for the worst kind of idiots. The comments above are way beyond not being attracted to fat people.

Get off your knees FFS.

I just think this whole conversation makes the men sound sleazy

Have you ever had to go to HR about something in a small team that would identify you in a group where you are outnumbered?

I can't believe this is still here

Women are people too. And misogyny completely disregards that. I am so sick of misogyny being allowed. It’s even allowed on a forum specifically for women to support one another. It is so fucking depressing.

Women are equally valuable human beings and hatred and contempt for women should not be tolerated.

While I wrote that Mumsnet is specifically for women to support other women, I recognise that Mumsnet is for everyone. It’s for women, men, mums, dads, grandparents and people who do not have children.

But even so, there is nothing wrong with women having a forum, a place or a service that is specifically aimed at them. All while still remaining inclusive.

There are plenty of forums, places, services specifically aimed at men. So, why should we feel bad about wanting a forum or a place or a service that’s specifically aimed for us.

When I encounter men like you, I wish I was a lesbian. Sadly, sexuality is not a choice. If it was, men would be buggered. Literally.

How the fuck can you be a virgin with a high sex drive??

Massive wanker

😂😂