Would you start a relationship with someone who ticks all your boxes but...

[rockabyebaby99]

...wants to wait until marriage for sex?

Absolutely not.

Completely different values to mine and utterly ridiculous.

No!

They wouldn’t tick all of my boxes.
love sex and anti religion.

I would find that very difficult but a friend of mine did and they are still happily married 15 years later, so it worked out for them.

No

You may be sexually incompatible

No. To me, sexual compatibility is important. You could marry him and have absolutely zero chemistry and / or shit sex for the rest of your life. No thanks.

That's a pretty big box to not tick!

Good god NO. NO. NOOOOOO!!!

No chance. If they are a crap shag you are stuck with that forever.

How old are the couple in question ?

No, because sexual compatibility is important and would be a glaring unknown! Also as PP said, it would imply religious/conservative values incompatible with my own. How could anyone think it’s wise to commit to someone legally and permanently when you’ve no idea how you get one sexually?!

Mid to late twenties.

Not in a million years.

They wouldn't tick all my boxes if that was the case.

Nope.

No 😆 What if you have sex for the first time on your wedding night and it's shit? Then what?

no. It was me that wanted to wait 20 years ago (early 20s) because of misplaced belief/faith/guilt.
I wouldn’t recommend it at all. I think it led to us getting married earlier than we should’ve. It’s was also not great and also left me wondering what else was out there since I never experienced it. I’ve now finally left.

No

No. I’d never get close to discussing marriage with someone I didn’t fancy.

My friend’s 70yo mother (a widow) is seeing someone but wouldn’t live with him or share an hotel room etc before marriage. That’s due to her age and upbringing I think.

At age 25ish it’s more likely to be due to religious dogma, which is unappealing.

No and double no if it's due to religious reasons. That's mental.

Hi Op@rockabyebaby99
If everything in this relationship rocks in a good way,

Then yes why not wait, until marriage,

Strangely enough I have had periods when I have thought differently,

But I have re Consirder my attitudes thoughts on this,

For several reasons

Is it due to religion and are you/ they of the same religion? Is it a broader set of values you/ they share but just not this bit or to this extent?

Me, no. Not compatible values and I would need to know we are sexually compatible and find each other sexually attractive outwith the environment of something forbidden building up excitement.

Not for me.
Presume religious reasons. That's enough for a very big box for me not to be ticked.