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What have I done

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 20:48

I had friends over for Easter and we was all drinking the kids where playing and everyone was having a good time until I got drunk and ended up having sex with my friends ex in the bathroom. When we came out everyone knew what we had done and my friend had left. I feel so guilty I genuinely don't know what I was thinking and don't know how to fix this

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Zola1 · 09/04/2023 20:52

Wow if this is real then I don't think it is fixable. I'd be absolutely raging if my friend had an event which included kids, got that drunk and then shagged my ex in the bathroom.
You need to apologise but..I don't think she will forgive you and you might well lose other friends from this too

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 20:55

Zola1 · 09/04/2023 20:52

Wow if this is real then I don't think it is fixable. I'd be absolutely raging if my friend had an event which included kids, got that drunk and then shagged my ex in the bathroom.
You need to apologise but..I don't think she will forgive you and you might well lose other friends from this too

I have messaged her to apologise but she's not replying, which I understand and I have apologised to everyone who was there for ruining the afternoon and making everyone uncomfortable

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dietcokelime · 09/04/2023 20:57

I think you need to quit alcohol, accept you've lost this friend and perhaps work on yourself so you can make sure this doesn't happen again.

Littlepiglet123 · 09/04/2023 20:59

What do you remember exactly?

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 20:59

dietcokelime · 09/04/2023 20:57

I think you need to quit alcohol, accept you've lost this friend and perhaps work on yourself so you can make sure this doesn't happen again.

I'm never drinking again it just messes everything up

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SleepingStandingUp · 09/04/2023 20:59

Why was her ex there?
What time of day, was this?

Kangarude · 09/04/2023 21:00

It doesn't sound great. I don't think I'd be very forgiving if I was the friend. How come her ex was there?

Skybluepinky · 09/04/2023 21:00

Who was sober and looking after the children?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 09/04/2023 21:01

So who was looking after the kids while you were pissed and shagging someone in the bathroom?

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 21:02

SleepingStandingUp · 09/04/2023 20:59

Why was her ex there?
What time of day, was this?

Her ex is in the friendship group there was quite a lot of us. They all came round about 11 and this happened about 6 ish

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SleepingStandingUp · 09/04/2023 21:05

Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 21:02

Her ex is in the friendship group there was quite a lot of us. They all came round about 11 and this happened about 6 ish

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I mean I think you just have to apologise and accept you've both put a, hand grenade in your old friendship group

SunflowerTed · 09/04/2023 21:07

I feel more sorry for the kids who were there. What kind of reckless, immoral and toxic situation were
they in?!

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 21:08

Littlepiglet123 · 09/04/2023 20:59

What do you remember exactly?

I remember we where sat outside just talking and having a laugh the kids where running about and on the trampoline, then as it got a bit cooler outside some where inside some stayed out. I went in the kitchen to get another drink an her ex came in to and we where joking about and he kissed me then he grabbed my hand and led me into the bathroom. Then when we came out my friend had left and everyone was being awkward and silent and left soon after.

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ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 09/04/2023 21:09

I feel sorry for the kids who had to put up with pissed adults shagging in the bathroom. But I do feel for your friend too, how cunty.

Crocodilekneecaps · 09/04/2023 21:10

Grim

Walterwhiteswifey · 09/04/2023 21:10

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 09/04/2023 21:09

I feel sorry for the kids who had to put up with pissed adults shagging in the bathroom. But I do feel for your friend too, how cunty.

This.

Wow, classy...

MrsRickAstley · 09/04/2023 21:10

Ooops.

gamerchick · 09/04/2023 21:11

Why are you taking all the blame here? What about him.

ThemysteriousH · 09/04/2023 21:11

Skybluepinky · 09/04/2023 21:00

Who was sober and looking after the children?

My thoughts exactly :/

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 09/04/2023 21:11

Skybluepinky · 09/04/2023 21:00

Who was sober and looking after the children?

Good question.

MobyJeff · 09/04/2023 21:12

Well, I hope this is your wake up call, and you get the help you need. Because I really don’t want to imagine where you could go from here if it isn’t up.

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 21:13

The kids where fine there was a few adults who only had a couple because they where driving and one of my friends is pregnant so not drinking. We wasn't all pissed

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Ionlydrinkondaysendinginy · 09/04/2023 21:15

MobyJeff · 09/04/2023 21:12

Well, I hope this is your wake up call, and you get the help you need. Because I really don’t want to imagine where you could go from here if it isn’t up.

I know iv crossed a massive line and am 100% in the wrong I just wish it hadn't had happened and I need advice on how to fix it

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ThemysteriousH · 09/04/2023 21:15

Your username suggests maybe you should cut down on the alcohol, if this is real you’ve a lot of damage control to do

ComeTheFuckOnBridgett · 09/04/2023 21:15

You won't be able to fix it. Il be surprised if she speaks to you again. You've mugged her off and made everyone else feel awkward.

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