How to bring up his living conditions?

[notmrscookie]

Been with partners nearly 3 yrs.
He is wanting to take things further and almost move in with me making it happen. Hard to explain. I own my house outright and have 2 children at home in there 20's . We only have 1 bathroom and boys sometimes have there girlfriends stay so rota needed for showers etc.( no chance they will be moving out soon)
Partner has a 25% share of a 1 bed flat that is messy and dusty and cupboards full of crap. To start with it wasn't too bad aa his parents visited so it was cleaner but sadly no more.
I feel dirty in it .Have made gentle comments re dust /dump trips but they fall on deaf ears.He rather watch TV then mop the floor or tackle a room.
I I can't understand him and don't want to destroy him as he has been single for so long and has very few friends and only one hobby that he does 4 times a Yr.
Plus he is a free Mason and due to its set up I know very little but both his hobbies kind of mean that he mixes with lots of older people and has become old before his time.
Any suggestions before I call an end to it.

Definitely end it.

You’re dating a Freemason who lives in a bin. Unless he is amazing in bed and has the wit and humour of Michael Palin I’m not sure what you’re doing with him in the first place.

Just end it. Ugh.

Even if he was amazing in bed there's NO WAY I would let this man live in my home, once he moved in Mr hot sex would stop making an effort in the bedroom and you will see that the hot sex was just a way to manipulate you into letting him move in.

OF COURSE he wants to move in with you, he wants to benefit from the fact that you are organised and have a nice tidy home.
He would bring all his mess and chaos into your home and you will be faced with two choices, do all the cleaning or live in chaos. He knows that once he's got his feet under your table you'll be too stressed and overwhelmed dealing with all the mess to form a strategy to get rid of him.
RUN 🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️