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Would you date a man 10 years younger

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shoega · 31/03/2023 19:13

I'm in my late thirties and met a guy in his late twenties who wants to date me. In our case, it's a good a time 10 year gap between us. Any advice on the pros and cons of relationships with an age gap will be appreciated.

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ThePinkQualityStreet · 31/03/2023 19:15

I’d say, as long as you’re at least 31 years old then a ten year age gap is ok.
15+ years is a bit weird.

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GoodChat · 31/03/2023 19:17

What's he like - does he have a secure job, home etc?
Does he potentially want children in the future?

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Sittingoutsidetesco · 31/03/2023 19:17

I wouldn’t, but I’m clearly being very unfair as my husband is 10 years older than me. We have been together since I was 20 and he was (obviously) 30. We are now 68 and 78 and the age gap hasn’t given us any issues at all.

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Mumsafan · 31/03/2023 19:18

I dated a man ten years younger than me once. He still lived at home and had no idea of the real world. It drove me mad that we had no shared experience of anything .

For example I would mention a world event that had happened when I was 20, say, and he would have no idea what it was etc.

Also found him to be quite insecure and immature.

Obviously it might have been just his/ my personality traits but I think some of it was down to the age difference.

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SirChenjins · 31/03/2023 19:21

Yes - because at 44 he’d be mature enough and the age gap wouldn’t seem so bad. In my thirties or early 40s - no. My son is mid twenties and I’d find it very odd if he was dating someone 10 years older, many twenty-somethings are at a v different stage in life at that point.

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SpinningFloppa · 31/03/2023 19:22

No but I prefer older men anyway

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fairgame84 · 31/03/2023 19:27

I'm 38 and 12 years older than DH.
It depends on the person. DH is much more mature than my ex who was older than me. We have a lot in common and want the same things from life.

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halfsiesonapotnoodle · 31/03/2023 19:28

Yes. It's absolutely fine. If you have a connection, that's what matters, not the number of birthdays you've had. You're both adults.

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SophiaSW1 · 31/03/2023 19:29

Not for me

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SleepingStandingUp · 31/03/2023 19:29

Housing situ.
Kid situ.
Work situ.

But that applies regardless of age. He's a proper adult, not a teenager

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Butterwicky · 31/03/2023 19:32

No, but I prefer men who are older than me.

I would find it unusual if someone I knew did this, but not wrong. Just uncommon.

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Mabelface · 31/03/2023 19:37

Definitely. I'm in my 50s and my last partner was 10 years younger. The age difference didn't matter.

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Pinkbonbon · 31/03/2023 19:46

I'm 34 and I'd happily date 26+. So thats 8 years. But at 32 I would have dated 25+ at 30, 24+

So maybe by 38 it'll be a 10 year gap xD

Funily enough I've never dated more than 3 years older than me though. Still wouldn't set out to do so.

Do whatever you fancy.
...no, literally. Lol.

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SallyWD · 31/03/2023 19:50

Yes. The only issue I'd worry about is if one of you wants children. Then this age gap can be problematic.
My DH is 5 years younger. I was ready for children way before him! It was a cause of stress for many years until he finally agreed.
If children aren't on the agenda then why not?

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tootiredtospeak · 31/03/2023 19:50

I met my partner at 31 making him 21. I was put off at first by his age when I met him I thought he was about 25 or 26. But he won me round and now I am 46 he is 36 we have 2 kids and the age gap seems fine.

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Throwaway0323 · 31/03/2023 19:53

I did and it was a disaster. I was 31 and he was 21.

Ended in a restraining order but tbh I think he had that personality regardless his age.

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GeekyDiva80 · 31/03/2023 20:06

I'm 43 my DP is 27. He has his own successful business and so much older than his years. I've a three year old and I'm a bit childlike so the perfect match. Never been happier. The men my age ended up being unemployable cocklodgers.

We are marrying this year. TBF he's always preferred older women as he find twenty year olds immature.

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motherofkevinnotperry · 31/03/2023 20:10

The older you get the less it matters. I'm mid 40's and I personally like older men, always have. Late 30s wouldn't put me off.

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Mixedberrygenderfluidmuffin · 31/03/2023 20:10

I'm in my 60's, DP is 12 years younger than me, we've been together 18 years and have children. The age gap has never been an issue, he's always been much more sensible and grown up than me.

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YukoandHiro · 31/03/2023 20:11

Depends if you want kids and how he feels about doing that in the near future

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NessVan · 31/03/2023 23:10

My dp is 7 years younger than me , I'm 33. He's amazing with a secure job and very mature. More mature than any man I've ever dated. And I never went younger as a rule, but i took a chance with him and I knew from the first date it was going to be amazing. And still is ❤️

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Twirlywoo · 01/04/2023 01:38

Wouldn't bother me at all! If there is a connection there then go for it.

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ZestFest · 01/04/2023 02:34

DH is 10 years younger. The gap hasn't really mattered, but now I'm getting older I'm aware of it more.

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JimBob61 · 01/04/2023 03:15

I met dh when I was 36 and he was 26. Got married 18 months later and just about to celebrate our silver wedding anniversary.

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bert3400 · 01/04/2023 03:33

My DH is 11 years younger than me and we are totally right for each other . We get on better than any other couple I know . I think it's more to do with a shared outlook/political/values than age . We have two kids together and he is an amazing dad . After 25 wonderful years together I'm grateful that we met and clicked .

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