Would you date a man 10 years younger

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I'm in my late thirties and met a guy in his late twenties who wants to date me. In our case, it's a good a time 10 year gap between us. Any advice on the pros and cons of relationships with an age gap will be appreciated.

I’d say, as long as you’re at least 31 years old then a ten year age gap is ok.
15+ years is a bit weird.

What's he like - does he have a secure job, home etc?
Does he potentially want children in the future?

I wouldn’t, but I’m clearly being very unfair as my husband is 10 years older than me. We have been together since I was 20 and he was (obviously) 30. We are now 68 and 78 and the age gap hasn’t given us any issues at all.

I dated a man ten years younger than me once. He still lived at home and had no idea of the real world. It drove me mad that we had no shared experience of anything .

For example I would mention a world event that had happened when I was 20, say, and he would have no idea what it was etc.

Also found him to be quite insecure and immature.

Obviously it might have been just his/ my personality traits but I think some of it was down to the age difference.

Yes - because at 44 he’d be mature enough and the age gap wouldn’t seem so bad. In my thirties or early 40s - no. My son is mid twenties and I’d find it very odd if he was dating someone 10 years older, many twenty-somethings are at a v different stage in life at that point.

No but I prefer older men anyway

I'm 38 and 12 years older than DH.
It depends on the person. DH is much more mature than my ex who was older than me. We have a lot in common and want the same things from life.

Yes. It's absolutely fine. If you have a connection, that's what matters, not the number of birthdays you've had. You're both adults.

Not for me

Housing situ.
Kid situ.
Work situ.

But that applies regardless of age. He's a proper adult, not a teenager

No, but I prefer men who are older than me.

I would find it unusual if someone I knew did this, but not wrong. Just uncommon.

Definitely. I'm in my 50s and my last partner was 10 years younger. The age difference didn't matter.

I'm 34 and I'd happily date 26+. So thats 8 years. But at 32 I would have dated 25+ at 30, 24+

So maybe by 38 it'll be a 10 year gap xD

Funily enough I've never dated more than 3 years older than me though. Still wouldn't set out to do so.

Do whatever you fancy.
...no, literally. Lol.

Yes. The only issue I'd worry about is if one of you wants children. Then this age gap can be problematic.
My DH is 5 years younger. I was ready for children way before him! It was a cause of stress for many years until he finally agreed.
If children aren't on the agenda then why not?

I met my partner at 31 making him 21. I was put off at first by his age when I met him I thought he was about 25 or 26. But he won me round and now I am 46 he is 36 we have 2 kids and the age gap seems fine.

I did and it was a disaster. I was 31 and he was 21.

Ended in a restraining order but tbh I think he had that personality regardless his age.

I'm 43 my DP is 27. He has his own successful business and so much older than his years. I've a three year old and I'm a bit childlike so the perfect match. Never been happier. The men my age ended up being unemployable cocklodgers.

We are marrying this year. TBF he's always preferred older women as he find twenty year olds immature.

The older you get the less it matters. I'm mid 40's and I personally like older men, always have. Late 30s wouldn't put me off.

I'm in my 60's, DP is 12 years younger than me, we've been together 18 years and have children. The age gap has never been an issue, he's always been much more sensible and grown up than me.

Depends if you want kids and how he feels about doing that in the near future

My dp is 7 years younger than me , I'm 33. He's amazing with a secure job and very mature. More mature than any man I've ever dated. And I never went younger as a rule, but i took a chance with him and I knew from the first date it was going to be amazing. And still is ❤️

Wouldn't bother me at all! If there is a connection there then go for it.

DH is 10 years younger. The gap hasn't really mattered, but now I'm getting older I'm aware of it more.

I met dh when I was 36 and he was 26. Got married 18 months later and just about to celebrate our silver wedding anniversary.

My DH is 11 years younger than me and we are totally right for each other . We get on better than any other couple I know . I think it's more to do with a shared outlook/political/values than age . We have two kids together and he is an amazing dad . After 25 wonderful years together I'm grateful that we met and clicked .