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Would you date a man 10 years younger

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shoega · 31/03/2023 19:13

I'm in my late thirties and met a guy in his late twenties who wants to date me. In our case, it's a good a time 10 year gap between us. Any advice on the pros and cons of relationships with an age gap will be appreciated.

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MMMarmite · 31/05/2023 08:48

Only if he was unusually mature, and ready to settle down and have kids.

blahblahblah1654 · 31/05/2023 09:40

HowAmYa · 31/05/2023 08:28

Really depends on the person. I'd normally say no however my DP is 10 years younger. He's very mature (we met at 22 and 32 whilst working together and got togther a year later, been a couple 2/3 years) has his own business, isn't a huge drinker, he just doesn't have the personality of your typical 'youngster out partying'. He happily does all the DIY, we have the same taste in music/movies and very much prefer good food and a bottle of wine to going to the pub etc. I couldn't have found a more kindred spirit, a more perfect partner if I tried. I would never ever date younger. But this has been the most fulfilling relationship I've ever had. And he is more mature than any partner I've ever had.

The only thing I would say is be 100% on the same page when it comes to time sensitive things such as children because obviously women have a small window to have children in and men...Well I just seen Al Pacino having a baby at 80+ with a 29 year old so that's that!

Oh wow that's awful. He had to outdo Robert Deniro! I thought you had got them confused for a second 😆

Siameasy · 31/05/2023 10:40

DH is 8 years younger. No issue for me provided you want the same things.
I’m 47. If I were single (I obv wouldn’t want any more kids) my limit would be early 30s.

Maddy70 · 31/05/2023 11:01

Yes and I have done. Twice!

One seemed immature. Wanting marraige children etc quite early on in the relationship. The other was really good fun and if it wasn't for my job and extensive travel would have probably lasted a long time

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shoega · 31/05/2023 11:37

halfsiesonapotnoodle · 30/05/2023 16:38

Old thread. Did you go for it, OP? Hope so!

Old thread but it's useful to gain insight from other people's views still. So, thanks to everyone for chipping in.

I didn't go for it with the young chap because he felt quite insecure that he couldn't measure up to me. He kept saying I was way out of his league and I got tired of having to reassure him that I didn't think so. Such a shame because I did think he treated me with kindness and I am quite young at heart and have much love to give back.
I'm still single and hoping for the best.

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GonnaGetGoingReturns · 31/05/2023 11:45

For me at your age (when I was late 30s) it depended if I wanted kids or not which I did then or thought I did so I dated men close to my own age.

When I was 41/42 I was out with a friend and I met this really nice man in a bar who’d have been late 20s, I had an accident whilst I was there which meant I had to go to hospital so sadly couldn’t swap numbers but he seemed like someone I could’ve had a relationship with despite the age gap which he was unconcerned about. I did also about a year later meet a man with friends who was 10 years younger, not in a bar but in his friends flat with some other men. However this man was good looking which I sort of think he knew but sort of didn’t know and he was insecure about the area he lived in which was silly. With him I didn’t swap numbers, maybe I thought he’d be suited to a younger woman. I do get hit on by men 10 years younger as I get told I look in early 30s.

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