Would you date a man 10 years younger

[shoega]

I'm in my late thirties and met a guy in his late twenties who wants to date me. In our case, it's a good a time 10 year gap between us. Any advice on the pros and cons of relationships with an age gap will be appreciated.

[MinimalistMe]

I'm 40 and my husband is 30, we have one child. It's been a blissful 9 years together 💕

[JudyGemstone]

I’m 10 years older, we barely notice the age gap. He loves being at home, cooking, hanging out with the cat, whereas I like to go out and do stuff a lot more. It works well though. Compatibility is about a lot more than age.

There is a chance he could decide he wants kids in the future and leave to pursue that with someone younger, of course there is.
But relationships end for a variety of reasons and there’s never any guarantees.

if you like each other go for it :)

[lovewarandroses]

Do what makes you happy! The youngest guy that I have ever dated was 5 years younger... All the best .....

[BCBird]

I'm 53. I would date a man 43 if he ticked the boxes personality wise if he'd no desire for kids was financially stable, as I am and was looking for a meaningful relationship. I.think late 30s and late 20s then I probably would not have done,unless it was just a temporary fling.

[CrunchyCarrot]

My DP is 12 yrs younger than me. We met when I was 40 and he was 28. I was an immature 40 and he a mature 28! We moved in together about a year later and we are still together some 27 years later.

[SwordToFlamethrower]

I'm 46 and my husband is 37. He is the old fart in our relationship!

I love him, he is great

[LBFseBrom]

It depends what you want out of the relationship; a man of 23 is still very young, not much more than a boy (though there definitely are some men who seemed to be born middle aged :-)).

If you are wanting a good time with no long term commitment, why not? Do keep your options open though, don't be too exclusive because there are plenty of men in your own age group who want to settle down, with whom you'll have more in common.

[halfsiesonapotnoodle]

Old thread. Did you go for it, OP? Hope so!

[TheoTheopolis23]

@TrishM80

No. An older woman/younger man couple always looks ridiculous.

I know two couples with a 7/8 yr age gap and - no bullshit - they don't look different ages. They look about the same age.

[girlfriend44]

@ThePinkQualityStreet

I’d say, as long as you’re at least 31 years old then a ten year age gap is ok.
15+ years is a bit weird.

No it's not.
Ridiculous comment.

[Livelifelaughter]

I think it depends on the stage of life rather than years. I met a guy 10 years younger and I was mid 40s I ended it because I thought it would preclude his chances of having children. Later in life it wouldn't have mattered.

[CurlewKate]

"The older you get the less it matters."

Well, up to the time when it starts to really matter....

[wishywashy6]

Yes, I am!

DP is now 30 and I'm 41

Met when I was 36 and he was 25

I don't think you can judge on age alone. I dated men 10 years older than me who were far more immature/ needy/ generally annoying.

Don't need to dive anything serious but there's nothing wrong with giving it a go and seeing where it leads.

We began casually as both thought it would probably not end up going anywhere due to age but here we are 5 years later with a mortgage.

He's a great step dad to my 2 children (10 & 13), hardworking, good secure job with decent prospects and we get on. The age gap never gets noticed/ mentioned really.

[Livelifelaughter]

@CurlewKate

"The older you get the less it matters."

Well, up to the time when it starts to really matter....

Yep, fair play...

[TheoTheopolis23]

I'm.amazed and heartened to see so many examples of (lasting).couples with older female halves; my male cousin asked how old my partner is abd when I unthinkingly says his age (3 years younger) he said "you've got yourself a bit of a toy boy there". He was not joking. I was non plussed and said he was hardly a toy boy, he replied that he was younger and that was not the usual way of things, it's usually the other way around. I then gave examples of other couples and one 7 year age gap while he and his son looked at me like I was an alien/weird and said nothing. in response (We're both mid 40s and his son early 20s btw).

[Gettingbysomehow]

I was married to one for 20 years. I got fed up with his immaturity and lack of responsibility. It was all great fun for 5 years then it was a slow decline into divorce. I'm in my 60s and he's still partying every weekend.

[Zarataralara]

I wouldn’t but then my oldest child is less than 17 years younger than me so that would make it really weird. Just shows it all depends on your situation and the individuals involved.

[WhisperingAutistic]

Yes, I'm married to one. Been together 9 years now.

[User8907]

I probably would, I'm mid-forties but no kids and feel (look) younger than my years. I can't see myself with 50+ man either. Depends so much on personalities though

[AppleDumplingWithCustard]

I have. Me 52, him 37. I didn’t want to marry him or have his babies.😂. We had a lot of fun together but I didn’t view it as serious or potentially long-term.

[NotMyMill]

My partner is 8 years younger than me. That’s about my limit I think but there’s obviously not much difference between 8 and 10 lol

[whatwouldAnnaDelveydo]

Love this thread. I'm 44 and dating from 22 to 46 so far. Have no interest in older guys but I've been through quite a few things myself and the lack of life experience from men is often a problem (sometimes the older ones are the less mature...). It's great to hear success stories of age gaps.

[Blip]

I'd definitely go ahead. My DH is 4 years younger than me and I think older woman younger man is a better dynamic than older man younger woman. Women live longer so you are less likely to be left a widow later in life.

If you want kids then younger sperm is generally better!

[locomum83]

Nice work of you can get it! Wouldn't bother me!

[HowAmYa]

Really depends on the person. I'd normally say no however my DP is 10 years younger. He's very mature (we met at 22 and 32 whilst working together and got togther a year later, been a couple 2/3 years) has his own business, isn't a huge drinker, he just doesn't have the personality of your typical 'youngster out partying'. He happily does all the DIY, we have the same taste in music/movies and very much prefer good food and a bottle of wine to going to the pub etc. I couldn't have found a more kindred spirit, a more perfect partner if I tried. I would never ever date younger. But this has been the most fulfilling relationship I've ever had. And he is more mature than any partner I've ever had.

The only thing I would say is be 100% on the same page when it comes to time sensitive things such as children because obviously women have a small window to have children in and men...Well I just seen Al Pacino having a baby at 80+ with a 29 year old so that's that!