Airport gifts - would this annoy you?

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DH & I - married 25+ years etc, no longer in the ‘romantic gifts’ stage etc and mostly buy things we want for ourselves, or give specific suggestions for birthdays/Christmas etc. I’m very against wasting money on unnecessary tat etc.
DH has been away on a ‘boys trip’ with some male friends and texted me from return airport saying ‘do we need anything from duty free?’ I replied ‘no thanks/think we’re fine’. We had loads of alcohol left over from Christmas when DH went out and bought too much (despite me pointing out we didn’t need it).
He then sent me a photo of a perfume I used to wear about 10 years ago, but stopped as I went off it. He also knows this, as he has suggested it before and I explained. I replied ‘no thanks, don’t wear that anymore’
He’s now texted ‘well what about something else?’ and is sending me random pics of all sorts of crap in the airport.
I can’t explain, but this has really pissed me off! I think maybe the other blokes are buying (nice?) stuff for their wives and he feels pressured to do the same, but realised he doesn’t know what, and is trying to make it my problem?

I can't believe people would be annoyed by this. How churlish and miserable.

He doesn't have to buy you anything and probably wasn't planning to but obviously they're all tootling around Duty Free with time on their hands so he'd thought of you.

If you don't fancy perfume, how about some decent mascara and a massive Toblerone?

Maybe he can bring home a m&s ready meal

Sounds like he’s trying to do something nice and buy you something that you would want.

Oh Jesus so glad I am not married to OP!

On what planet could this be him making this your problem.

My God, men can't win sometimes!

Thanks for thinking of me but just get me a new phone case instead. See you later. Safe flight

Why does everyone keep going on about massive toblerones?

I don't think people have bothered to read the thread.
OP has politely said I'm fine thanks, don't want or need anything.
Her DH is bombarding her with suggestions for things when she has already told him she doesn't want anything. Some of the suggestions (previous perfume) show that he doesn't pay any attention to her previous requests (not to buy it).
When she stops replying to his photos and messages he starts phoning her (on her mobile and also the home phone) to try to get her to agree to something!
He suggests she SHOULD want something because her birthday is 'coming up soon' i.e. she should be grateful he is picking her something up (clearly a well-thought out gift) at the airport for her birthday!!

Jeez, these aren't the actions of a loving kind husband wanting to buy his wife a gift, this is a crazy man who won't take no for an answer because HE has decided his wife SHOULD want something from the airport because HE HAS DECIDED this is a good idea and a good use of his time and will make him look good in front of HIS mates.

I get you OP, I really do. Am surprised others can't see it.

"Can I pick you something up at the airport duty free?"
"No thanks, nothing I really need or want thanks"
"OK, see you later"

That's all that was required.

I don't know, but that would be a crap gift for me - can't stand them! <boak!>

I hate toblerones. I'd divorce DH if he brought one home.

Because it was the stereotypical “look, I’ve been on a flight” gift back in the days when you could only buy them in airports, before W H Smiths started offering them for £1 if you bought a book of stamps and this month’s Practical Angler.

Isn't it illegal to walk through an airport duty free and not buy a massive toblerone?

Or a family pack of Lindt chocs?

If your DH is in Schiphol, OP, tell him to get you one of those big Edams and a pair of comical clogs.

He's been on a boys trip though not a shopping trip. He was trying to get you something you're like

*you'd

I really find most stuff at airports gross and commercialized. They know they have a captive audience to sell crap to and the idiots fall for it!

DH knows that in no uncertain terms is he to waste money on crap in duty free. The booze isn't even that cheap! I may have allowed him to bring me a small box of Italian biscuits once, but that's it!

He's trying to be nice. Take it at face value and stop finding fault.

Do people still do this?

Id tell him exactly what to buy... chanel chance and some grey goose. Id be really happy

LTB!

It’s MN, all men are shit (but I agree with your view, it’s tiring).

Not really. Being nice would mean just buying a small token something, not haranguing the OP after she’d said she didn’t want anything?
He might have been having a nice leisurely stroll around the airport, but perhaps she was busy and didn’t have time for his messages and calls?

Reminds me of DH who goes out ‘shopping’ then calls me saying ‘do we need anything?’ We both have access to the same shopping list on a whiteboard in the kitchen, but somehow he doesn’t think to photograph it before he goes out!
On one occasion he wanted me to read it out to him while he went around the store picking items up! Sod that for a game of soldiers!

No! Get the Chanel first! Then LTB

OP you are a difficult wife

I wouldn't be annoyed by this at all. I'd be sending him a shopping list.

What could be easier than genuinely, happily (i.e. no sulking involved) not needing a present?

As opposed to, say, bombarding one’s partner with photos, texts, phone calls on two different phones demanding that she choose a present she doesn’t want?

Only one half of this married couple is being difficult, and it ain’t the wife.