Threads about how I would never be abused because I’m XYZ really wind me up, does it to anyone else?

[Rainbow03]

I shouldn’t get involved in those threads.

A colleague a couple of years back when I was really suffering from PTSD said to me that I’m far to clever to ever let someone treat me like your husband, I’d never be abused.

Most of these people are coming from a place of never experiencing abuse. Really does my head in now. No wonder people keep quiet.

@PearCrumbleCustard yes I understand. It is of my belief and it’s only my belief that some don’t pick people with less power because they are easy. They sometimes pick people who have power because it serves them then can’t deal with their own insecurities that come with that. They can’t deal with it when the women gets pregnant and the attention shifts. But that may be in a small majority of cases.

It was nice having the discussion with you @Watchkeys on this discussion forum. I did enjoy learning about your opinion whether I agree or not.

@SunsetStrip yes because you were challenging his power, he did not like that you have some power but he still had physical power - which is what he used. If you had also more physical power he could not have done that. Power imbalance is key.

@PearCrumbleCustard that makes sense, I hadn’t thought of it like that.

I’m watching the Christine McGuinness documentary (autism )

major links between asd and soooo many things including - abusive relationships and especially for women

totally computes and makes sense for me

social cues , people pleasing and maybe not reading the signs
plus anxiety and insecurity as they feel ‘different ‘