So I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months. I suppose it’s casual as we’re not officially girlfriend/boyfriend but we are good friends and really get on. We go out, have dinners together, stay over etc. Both 40s.
All I got on my birthday was a text to say happy birthday. He didn’t ask to see me or offer to take me out or anything. I’m so disappointed and feel crappy. I thought I meant more to him than a text. It’s not that he can’t afford to get me anything or take me out, he can. Even inviting me for dinner round his (which he has plenty of times before) would have been nice.
I feel I need to say something but not sure what as I don’t want to come across as needy or materialistic. It’s the thought that counts and this doesn’t feel like much thought.
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Disappointed with just getting a text on my birthday
Justlovecandles · 09/03/2023 02:40
Justlovecandles · 09/03/2023 02:51
But even if we are FWB, we are still friends? Doesn’t that deserve more than a text?
Justlovecandles · 09/03/2023 02:51
But even if we are FWB, we are still friends? Doesn’t that deserve more than a text?
Justlovecandles · 18/03/2023 16:31
UPDATE
So it remains that all I got was a text on my birthday!
I do think he likes me… I don’t know why I didn’t get a card or anything, my other friends say it’s just him being a man!
it’s his birthday next week and I’m going to go round with a card and present and show him properly how to wish someone happy birthday.
i must say though, he’s been lovely in other ways, and has been really supportive recently when I was having problems with my son.
anyway… I’m over my blues. Bloody birthdays!!!
Justlovecandles · 18/03/2023 16:40
Yes!
that is what I’m going to do… because that is what I do for my friends on their birthday!
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