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Without sounding sad at 46 am I likely to be able to meet anyone?

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Wonderingwhyy · 10/02/2023 21:41

just that really.

My ex had an affair and left 3 years ago. What with covid and 2 DC ( one who has SEN so tricky) it’s only now I’m at the point of thinking I’d really like to try meeting someone. But I’m 46 .

This probably sounds a silly question but is this even possible? Do people my age go on OLD? Im assuming the majority of men would be looking for someone younger. Is there a site that
would be better to join?

Apologies for the probably stupid question - never really had to think about it before and my friends are either married or not interested in another relationship of single or a bit younger than me.

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ItsAnOrgasmNotAFabergeEgg · 10/02/2023 21:46

I’m 48 and have just met someone my age on OLD, after having a fling with someone 10 years younger last year! Of course people our age use OLD. Be honest, be ruthless in what you’re looking for and keep good boundaries and you’ll have lots of run, some terrible stories and hopefully a new relationship before you know it!

ItsAnOrgasmNotAFabergeEgg · 10/02/2023 21:46

Lots of fun

Tuilpmouse · 10/02/2023 21:48

It depends what criteria you have. If you're happy to date men from mid 40s upwards, then you'll be fine, though you'll likely have to get through a lot of frogs to find your Prince.

If you're looking for a 30 year old dreamboat who wants a long-term relationship, you probably won't get lucky...

Maze76 · 10/02/2023 21:51

I’m 46 and I’ve had a great time OLD. Just approach it with an open mind and an opportunity to meet new people and have a nice time out- don’t put pressure on yourself to meet ‘the one’, just have fun!

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Wonderingwhyy · 10/02/2023 21:55

Oh thanks - youve all made me feel a lot better!

I honestly do just want to have some fun initially. I can’t explain it but it’s like I’ve suddenly come alive again having felt I’d be perfectly happy single for ever more.

And whilst I’d love a 30 year old dreamboat - well maybe mid 30s - @Tuilpmouse I’m realistic 😁

Are any particular sites better than others?

OP posts:
Zanatdy · 10/02/2023 21:57

Yes perfectly possible! I’m the same age and recently met someone and it’s going great! Plenty of time

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Wonderingwhyy · 10/02/2023 22:01

Glad to hear so many people enjoying it!

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zonky · 10/02/2023 22:03

It really depends on timing and luck! But also your own expectations.

What sort of relationship do you envisage? What can YOU offer someone?

Enjoy the experience and try not to let disappointing chats/dates get to you.

category12 · 10/02/2023 22:06

Yeah, of course. My mum's 70-odd and acquired a chap.

Plenty of people find partners after divorce etc in their 40s and beyond.

QueefQueen80s · 10/02/2023 22:07

Why would the majority want younger women?

Goatbilly · 10/02/2023 22:15

QueefQueen80s · 10/02/2023 22:07

Why would the majority want younger women?

No commitments like children, less jaded/cynical?

Jules198711 · 10/02/2023 22:26

My mum is 66 and her DP is 70...they are both widowed and met on OLD 2 years ago! You're definitely not too old!

QueefQueen80s · 10/02/2023 22:30

@Goatbilly True but more likely to want children. But I get you.. we see all the bullshit as we get older. But the type of man who wants a more naive woman isn't something to want anyway.

Theeaglesoared · 10/02/2023 22:39

I met my now husband when I was 47. You just need to say yes to every invitation! You never know, your future lover may turn out to be the friend of a friend of someone you met doing something you weren't that bothered about but went anyway.

Tuilpmouse · 10/02/2023 22:45

QueefQueen80s · 10/02/2023 22:07

Why would the majority want younger women?

Of course 40/50-something men will be attracted superficially to a younger woman - that's just biology... But many of those women will want children which many 40/50-something men won't necessarily be up for.

Sugaspunsista · 10/02/2023 22:49

I met someone 10 years younger than me ( I'm 51).... its been nearly 2 years now.
I'm having the time of my life

QueefQueen80s · 10/02/2023 23:11

@Tuilpmouse Men like that are grim. Can't stand older men looking at me in that way and I've always avoided those ones.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 10/02/2023 23:16

When you say meet someone

of course you can meet a man for friendship and sex
and dates

the worlds full of men !

but marriage ?
moving in ?
what do you want when you say meet someone?

AnnieSnap · 10/02/2023 23:26

I met my now husband a month before my 49th birthday. We have been together coming up to 15-years now, married for 7. He is my third husband and the 4th man I have lived with! He is definitely ‘the one’.

Tuilpmouse · 10/02/2023 23:42

QueefQueen80s · 10/02/2023 23:11

@Tuilpmouse Men like that are grim. Can't stand older men looking at me in that way and I've always avoided those ones.

Not sure what you mean when you say "men like that"... In general, pretty much all straight men will be attracted to a hot looking younger woman, at least at a superficial level. It doesn't mean that they will all perve or lech, or actually want any connection or relationship.

caringcarer · 11/02/2023 00:17

You are never to old to find new friendships and love. Don't go in with starry eyed, go in eyes wide open ie you might need to date 10 men before you find one who suits you. Enjoy the whole dating thing.

Rebellious23 · 11/02/2023 00:27

My dad is widowed (mum died June last year) and has started dating. He's 72....

LorW · 11/02/2023 00:30

My friend is getting married this year and she is 65, she was widowed 6 years ago, I’m so happy for her that she has found someone who makes her as happy as he does 😁

You will find love again OP

TheFrozenCanal · 11/02/2023 00:47

I know someone who went on guardian soul mates and is now married to him.

aurynne · 11/02/2023 02:02

Regardless whether old men like younger women, that doesn't mind they'll get them. Most younger, attractive women are not attracted to old geezers anyway, and have plenty of options among young, good looking men their own age.