Without sounding sad at 46 am I likely to be able to meet anyone?

[Wonderingwhyy]

just that really.

My ex had an affair and left 3 years ago. What with covid and 2 DC ( one who has SEN so tricky) it’s only now I’m at the point of thinking I’d really like to try meeting someone. But I’m 46 .

This probably sounds a silly question but is this even possible? Do people my age go on OLD? Im assuming the majority of men would be looking for someone younger. Is there a site that
would be better to join?

Apologies for the probably stupid question - never really had to think about it before and my friends are either married or not interested in another relationship of single or a bit younger than me.

‘This probably sounds a silly question but is this even possible? Do people my age go on OLD?’

It’s not a silly question given how women are made to feel about age.

But the answer is a resounding yes! 🫂

Are you on Frolo for single parents? They have a dating app too.

you can meet anyone at whatever age you like, you can do whatever makes you happy!

I met my dp 3 years ago and I'm 71 now. We like it that we've got so much in common, history, music. Life's good.

You will find plenty of divorced around that age, I doubt many will be looking to get married again or start another family , you should be fine

Yes you can meet men. My cousin who is a bit older than you meets plenty of them.
If she remembered her boundaries there would be fewer. If she remembered the effect of alcohol. That number would be reduced again.
But she would still have a choice.

Tbf you might only be half way through your life at 46. So presumably you will couple up on several occasions beteeen now and then. It's not like relationships are forever in this day and age. You could be married at 49 and divorced at 55 and onto a toy boy at 60 in Turkey, back on online dating 5 years later and married again at 70 if you wanted.

That’s beautiful 😍

There are men out for sure who don’t want more kids so avoid the under 40’s for that reason. To be honest some men will only want to date women who have kids that I’ve grown up and flown the nest too.

Yes but still grim, why does a woman at 46 have to settle for a 55-60 year old!

I don’t see age as a massive issue, it’s more about attitude for me. I met men in their 40s who were “older” in attitude, and TBH health, than some men in their late 50s/early 60s.

Thanks everyone

I honestly feel really heartened by this thread!

I'd maybe agree if the balance was equal regarding age between the sexes.

I was 50 when I met my husband. He is 6 years younger than me and we were introduced by a mutual female friend.

Yes lots of people find love whatever age they are, you’ll be fine . I’m 52 was on Tinder and Bumble at 48 and had lots of dates some good some not so.
I met my lovely man on Tinder, he’s 32 and we are on our 3rd year together but I had plenty of matches and dates with men in their 40s too.

I know at least a dozen people who met the love of their life at well past 50 and lived happily ever after. All but one of them had a failed marriage behind them. The exception had never had a relationship before and was resigned to spinsterhood.

Second time around can be absolutely blissful.

I’ve no desire for a younger man - they’re way more likely to have small children (done with that stage of life) or still be looking to have a family. I think that is one key reason why older women don’t look for younger men, hence the difference vs balance.

I should say “many older women”, not imply all. It’s personal choice!

I was nearly 45 when I met my now dh having been single for 15 years. One thing to note is in your mid or late forties with older dc and no desire for any more you're a good prospect for the same age/older men coming out of bad or failed relationships. Nd they will work at it. Everyone has baggage at that age. 30 year old dream boats aren't going to look twice at you but will probably give you a shag.

@TBOM Yes and those same reasons will apply to men.

Reading with interest! I'm 42, no kids and don't want any. Single for nearly 5 years now.

QueefQueen80s

i honestly haven't seen this age issue at all !

ive mainly attracted either guys my age or some young milf fans

i look my age (albeit I do take care and have Botox ) , they look their age - alls been fine
im late 40s

My cousin is 57 and last year met his lovely, intelligent, talented girlfriend who is the same age. He’d been single forever, but someone they both knew thought they’d like each other so introduced them and it took off from there. Honestly, knowing my cousin like I do, he’s just not attracted to younger women. It’s a myth that they all are.

Oh, and I got married at 46.

I met way more men online who were looking for a step mother for their young kids than those who wanted no more children. They just wanted someone to offload parenting duties onto. Swerved those ones!

I'm 48, been single 18 months and joined Match.com yesterday. Honestly, the men my age and above are super cringe, creepy and full of shit chat up lines! Put me off straight away! However I have had a 25 year old lad messaging me all day and this evening and he thinks I'm gorgeous 😂 obviously only after a shag from the "older woman" but I've actually enjoyed chatting with him, very mature, not full of shit and not trying to overly impress.....if only I was 20 years younger!! 😂 Given me a confidence boost anyhow 😜