He's annoyed that I don't "do" Valentine's Day

[34and3]

Been with dh 11 years. I've always found V day to just be a Clinton's Cards opportunity day to be honest. I really personally don't see the need to be forced to say three words on one specific day of the year. Blah blah I could go on!

Dh on the other hand says I'm invalidating our relationship by not doing something for it.

Am I the only grumpy one or does anyone else view it the same as me?

We've never bothered with cards for each other as it becomes a meaningless gesture, but do very occasionally buy flowers or similar. You could buy him a small box of chocolates and make him something nice for tea - lots of places are doing Valentine's meal deals or you could make everything pink eg pink pasta, rhubarb puddings, etc. I wouldn't bother getting him a card though unless he's really hurt that he's never had one. If so, get one this year as a one off but make sure next year to just get him flowers or chocolates otherwise you will have set a precedent.

My OH feels the same way as the OP, as do I to an extent.

I am expecting nothing and will not be disappointed if I get nothing.

I have still ordered her some roses & chocolates anyway. No way I'm having the answer BE "nothing" when other people ask her what I did. I know how the sisterhood works ladies.