Shaving

[forwhatitsworth22]

My hubby has asked if I would consider shaving, all off, smooth. I keep myself trimmed and tidy. I have a question which may be silly but how do I shave and see what I'm doing? Do I use a normal razor and shaving gel? I know these sound like silly questions but I don't wanna give myself a nasty cut etc.

This isn't true, it doesn't grow back thicker, just the ends are blunt so it can initially look thicker, but it grows back just the same.

I wouldn't use cream there, I have a reaction to the cream wherever I use it, it burns my skin.

I've had the area waxed before, it does hurt, but it's so quick, it's over and done with before you know it. I can't be bothered now though, been single for a while and just in a new relationship, he hasn't asked for anything like that and to be honest if I didn't want to do it for myself, I wouldn't do it for him. However, I'm always clean and I trim just to keep it easy to wash.

Why would a man what his partner to look prepubescent?

Do you say the same to women who don't like beards?

Out of interest, do women shave because their partner likes it or because they want to themselves?

Your question reminded me of this classic Amazon review

I use the venus pubic razor and Venus sensitive shaving gel. It’s easy if you sit on the edge of the bath and extend each leg to shave in the crease of your thigh. The Venus pink razor is good as well.

Lol, same here!

I shaved a few times in younger days and the itching was torture. My attitude now is take it or leave it!

Wax or nair.

I use the woo woo hair removal cream. But when it's time to take it off I do so with a razor. Mens three blade ones work best for me but I've used most types. Always go for a new blade though!

As to why, my OH isn't a fan of hair in his teeth (nor am I for that matter!) he expressed a preference, sometimes I do it, sometimes I don't. He doesn't make a fuss. Sounds like the Ops partner suggested trying something different. If she's happy too why not 🤷

I enjoy oral better when I do it so it isn't just my OH that likes it.

He keeps his trimmed v. Short because that's what I prefer.

Gently exfoliate first and use a shave balm afterwards to get rid of any itching. Nivea sensitive or femfresh balms are good.

Idk, something gives me the heebs about a fully grown man wanting his partner to look like an infant.

If I shaved for myself it's normally for a bikini line/just to tidy it up so I don't become an actual yeti.

But nah red flags sorry. Also pubic hair is important for your health, it's not there just to be a nuisance.

No my partner doesn't watch to much porn, he asked if I would consider it, I'm happy to try it!!! I didn't ask for opinions on if I should or not. I asked for how to do it.

Good job I never asked for that opinion, 15 years of marriage and not 1 red flag.

Love that

You guys are so sad 😂

Everyone claiming it's a red flag for a man to like a shaved pubic region on a woman, I take it none of you have shaved pre-pubescent looking armpits or legs and only fancy men with beards?

There are plenty of reasons why that might be someones preference but MN just loves a leap to everyone being a nonce or a porn addict.

I prefer to be clean shaven because I personally like the look, believe it or not without being a huge porn addict! 🙄 I also find it more comfortable and I feel cleaner and fresher like that. My DH likes it but isn't fussed if I've not shaved for a few days. Just makes things easier, no hairs stuck in your teeth. He trims too for the same reasons.

If it's not your thing then don't it but don't have a go at people who do just because you can't understand why.

I like it myself, always have

Shaving is awful. The stubble used to drive me crazy, itchy regrowth. Some people get a lot of ingrown hairs too.

Laser hair removal is the best investment I ever made, though I have kept a landing strip thing which I could shave off if I wanted too but I just keep it trim.

Give it a go and see what you think but be prepared…exfoliate to stop ingrown hairs and go slowwwww. Enjoy

You don’t have to justify! Some of us prefer little to no hair. The undies I wear for myself would look ridiculous with a bush. Each to their own! I certainly didn’t get laser to look like an infant or to please my husband (who actually really doesn’t care what my pubic hair style is), I did it because I live in bikinis and wanted to have no maintenance. When I grew my hair back to have the laser, it always felt grubby and dirty to me. Some women prefer having hair, which is great for them.

It is bloody 2023, you do not, neither does your husband, have to justify your pubic hair preferences!

I tried it once. The stubble and regrowth was torturous. I'm happy to experiment with my own body but I'd have a bit of a side eye if I was asked to to something like that. But that's just me.

Women will pretty much always insist that they're only doing it for themselves - a common reason is that they feel "cleaner" when they're shaven/bald.

What I find really interesting is that the number of women who are "doing it for themselves" has rapidly risen in line with the prevalence of shaven/bald women in porn. And male preferences for no pubic hair. 25, 30 years ago women weren't removing all of their hair - it's very much a trend, and it's a trend that funnily enough matches the male gaze, and what society now tells us is "sexy".

I think social conditioning plays a very significant part in it, even if lots of women don't realise it. For example, it's not very hygienic to get rid of all the pubic hair - being bald increases the risk of infections and harmful bacteria etc. So the argument about being "clean" doesn't actually stack up - it's something that's often suggested and collectively we've unconsciously accepted that we can't be clean if we have hair. Same goes for armpit hair.

Social conditioning is extremely powerful and it's something we absorb unconsciously. It's a way of getting us to think that it's our own idea but it's not.

Just look at the pain and difficulties that women are describing on this thread in order to remove all of their pubic hair. It's utterly bonkers that women put themselves through this.

No pubic hair will continue to be popular until it falls out of fashion and then the next generation of women will be doing something else. It's not personal choice any more than leg hair or armpit hair is personal choice - if we all lived in a society where every woman had visible leg hair, no one would be trying to find ways to remove it because "personal taste". It's social conditioning even if people don't want to admit it/can't see it.

Having said all of that, it's up to others what they do with their pubic hair. It bothers me in the sense that I don't think it's a healthy message to pass onto our daughters - I wish our girls were growing up with the message that there's nothing wrong with visible armpit hair or leg hair. Or pubic hair. But all of that is a very long way off, and on a personal level, I don't care what another woman chooses to do. Makes zero difference to me. I just find it all very interesting from a sociological perspective.

Waxing is best, it is over so quickly and not very painful. I used to go to a waxing salon where they were so quick I was out of the door less than 15 minutes after arriving.

I've got rid of mine for 20 years, long before the whole supposed porn thing. I do it because I prefer it, it looks better in underwear and swimwear and it feels a lot nicer during oral. My body, my choice. A lot of men shave nowadays too because they just prefer the look and feel of it but no one ever accuses their wives/girlfriends of preferring the pre-pubescent boy look.

is it ok to shave under arms and legs then, or is does that look pre pubescent too?

How do you shave under your legs?

25, 30 years ago women weren't removing all of their hair - it's very much a trend, and it's a trend that funnily enough matches the male

They were. They just didn’t talk about it on forums and social media.

I agree that it is probably more common now than then.