Is this banter or more serious?

[Lookingtothefuturenow]

What would you make of a boyfriend who:

• mocks your car
• tells you to speed up or overtake when driving
• criticises things about your home, that you worked hard to buy when still in your 20s
• made fun of your choice of music
• generally quizzed you about things that he knows a lot about and you don't, making you feel a bit stupid?

Not for me! Throw him back

It's banter if it feels like banter to you. A man saying stuff that offends you then saying "It was banter" instead of apologising for hurting your feelings is at best invalidating your feelings, and at worst it's incipient gaslighting.