After all these years, I cannot get over the fact that he ended our marriage.

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I've NC. I'm embarrassed to admit (I would never admit to friends and family) that I still cannot get over (6 years on) the fact that my husband suddenly,out of the blue, decided he wasn't happy in our 20 marriage, had and affair, and within a few days, was gone.
He never once expressed that he was unhappy.
I wake up every day just praying I won't think about him and his new life. Of course, I do.

Is anyone else in a similar situation whereby they are still crushed/confused/heart broken by the end of their relationship?

I can't be bothered of thinking about the man that lied, deceived, gaslighted cheated and dumped me and left his 2 years old daughter for his crush with a damsel in distress.
He doesn't deserve it. Not my business his poor choices anymore. I wish him well.
You need to think this way OP.

This is a Zombie thread but I hope you are ok.
33 is a long time together so you must be in shock right now.

You’ll be ok. You’ll be better than ok. I guarantee it

You’ll be ok. You’ll be better than ok. I guarantee it

I am the same took it very personally when my ex husband left me, didn’t realise he was having an affair, didn’t realise he was unhappy, never mentioned anything. it broke me!
fortunately 12 years on I rarely think about him but took a while to get to that point. Think he’s now divorced again 🤣