My boyfriend wants his ex to stay round his new flat

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My boyfriend of a year has a couple of friends who are ex’s. I’ve never been a fan of the idea but learnt to accept it. He’s getting a new nice flat and asked me if he should tell me who he invites over. And I thought that was a bizarre statement until he mentioned his ex coming to stay when she sees him. They sometimes meet in london and go out drinking and for dinner but I feel I need to draw the line at her coming for a sleepover. she’d sleep in a separate bed obviously but I don’t feel comfortable at all about this and I’ve said how I feel but he doesn’t agree with my opinion and thinks it would be silly and “odd” to make her pay for a hotel. I trust him but I just find it very disrespectful to me and he thinks I’m crazy for hating the idea so much. What would you do in that situation?

Ask him if he's ok with your ex staying over whilst he & his ex cosy up in his new flat?
Regardless of whether they're still sleeping together or not, he doesn't respect you & doesn't care for your feelings. 😕

So he’s waking up with, and dealing with, his morning erection while his ‘ex’ is sleeping in the next room.

Nope. He’s a gaslighting dick for suggesting it.

Or possible waking up in his room with guest in his house. The erection doesn't really have to be assumed into the equation. How absurd.

WTF 😮

Are you actually this insecure that you would be scared your partner would cheat if his penis happened to be next door to another woman?

Why would you even date someone if you were thinking shit like that?

Anybody can cheat. Even those who never thought they would or could. I'm sure there have been those who were totally confident they would never ever cross that line but found themselves vulnerable when going through a rough patch in their relationship and began confiding in their "friend" or had too much to drink and didn't mean for it to happen blah blah blah. Or began over confiding in so called friend/ex which crossed over into an emotional affair.

It has nothing to do with trust, it's simple human nature no matter how loud someone proclaims "they would never" and it's wise to have boundaries in place and perfectly reasonable for partners to have this expectation for each other. It's a matter of respect and maturity to recognize how our actions look to others and impact them and what could happen and therefore not place yourself in a situationthat could easily lead to that. While of course she doesn't have the right to tell him what to do, he should be taking her feelings into consideration if his relationship with her is important. She absolutely is not alone in her feelings on the matter as evident by the number of posters on here articulating that they would feel the same.

But to each their own. If someone didn't see it the same way I do then they're not for me anyway. We are not compatible. I'd be saying have fun with the ex 👋