Hi PC, GOOD LUCK for tonight. Nothing to add to what the others have said, they say it so well (TFM, have you thought of writing a relationship counselling book ?) It's a shame it has to be on the anniversary of your first date - but I hope the dreadful irony of it strikes him - keep strong, keep control - and BIG hug!
Baffy, just catching up on all your postings and aghast that he even DARES to text that you should think of ds - as if you do anything else !! I can understand how hard it is to contemplate being reasonable about inlaws etc at the moment - you need to feel the anger and betrayal first before you can do this, so just let rip!
DPs being sweet at the moment, and I hope his new job tomorrow will help. We had a lovely day off yesterday, in town, popped into the National Gallery and saw a friend of his in an understudy rehearsal of a Harold Pinter play. DD was very envious to learn that one of the stars, Richard Coyle, was sitting just behind us. I should have asked for his autograph for her, but couldn't find the courage. She's been a big fan since he played Scary Jeff in 'Coupling' - which she used to watch with me when she was really far too young for the naughty humour!
I'm feeling a bit miffed about one of my friends at the moment (yes, there's always something). Hope you don't mind a quick rant from me.
There is a group of about 6 of us who all did our post-grad secretarial course together years ago, and were very close for awhile. Some of us are still in touch with varying degrees of regularity, but one in particular, call her H, who used to consider herself the lynchpin, has dropped two of us (me and A) for no known reason for the last few years. She still keeps in regular touch with two of the others (it was particularly galling as she was renting a flat from my parents, so THEY knew more about her than I did!) She hasn't even sent me a Christmas or birthday card for about 8 or 9 years.
Anyway, I invited (J) who's moved out of London, to come stay with me for a girls weekened near my birthday, as A is coming down to London and it would be nice to see each other after nearly 5 years. But J has emailed to say she'd love to, but she's broke and between jobs (which I understand), and THEN that she'll come to London in a couple of months as H had reminded her that it's MY 50th, and it's also H's 50th in July. It makes me feel like H has hijacked my birthday. I really don't feel much like having a shared celebration when H's made NO contact for years and I know A feels the same. So what do I do - go along with their plans or tell J that I'd love to see her in a couple of months when she's in funds, but that I don't really want to do a joint celebration with H? Should I stop being so petty and rise above this?
My exh used to say that he thought she wasn't worth worrying about when this all started (there was a problem once before about my birthday, when I invited them to come to our local cinema and H said it wasn't fair to ask J to come so far out of her way, because she had small children yada yada yada - exh had to physically stop me emailing her a real shouter!), but it still hurts...