How to find out who's number this is?

[Olivesandhoney]

I have been suspicious for a while but found a text on husbands phone with the message.. Happy new year, I love you ❤️ Have checked its not family on both sides. Do I just call?

I would never give my actual name to someone who rang me and didn't know my name. I'd be really cagey about confirming any details if they did know my name and I didn't know them.

It's unlikely they'd pick up but may have identifying voicemail?

Thats what I think. They might pick up though..

If you're going through his phone, a line has been crossed.

Well, that text shows that a line has been crossed!

I think if you have any trust doubts then you should firstly speak to your partner however, I know sometimes you can't shake a feeling of distrust and our gut can be so overwhelming. I have looked through a partners phone once too, as a previous discussion made me wary and I believed there was more. I was right. At first I thought I was being silly and felt really bad checking his phone. Then something told me to check his whatsapp messages to his best mate. I started feeling silly when it was general chat and was about to give up when I then saw that he told his friend that he had met with his ex a few days ago and still loved her and wanted to end things with me.

I'm not saying everytime we are suspious or distrusting there is a reason. Sometimes it is our own insecurities. However, sometimes those feelings arent wrong and it's amazing when our body and mind pick up on things when something isnt right,

I fell out with one of my brothers about five years ago. On New Years Eve we were driving back from dropping one of our kids home 4 hours away, and I was feeling a bit sad, so texted my brother out of the blue ‘Happy New Year. I love you’

My brothers currently single, after recently breaking up with his girlfriend (my mum keeps me up to date) so he’s not your husband but New Year can make people maudlin.

Does it?

OP, if you do call that humber with your own number withheld, the call could well be from a legitimate business. If my physio calls me via their extension on the company's main switchboard the call is not returnable or identifiable.
Similarly my GP, you can't call them back using the number they used to called me on.

A legitimate business texting its customers to tell them it loves them?

The poster means if the OP decides to call the number. Meaning, OP could withhold her number but it could still seem a legitimate call if you're answering that number.

Absolutely this.
Sorry for your experience.
It always baffles me when women say that he wouldn't have time. There is always time.

If the number isnt saved and there is no other contact I would assume it wasnt meant for him

Something like , act like you know her , Hi , sorry to bother you but I think we’ve double booked your hairdressing appointment, can I just check please when do you have it wrote down for ? (She ll prob have one) whatever she says , you can be like, we have you down for the 17th , what’s the name again please ?

I wouldn't assume that.
A cheater's technique includes regularly deleting all evidence from phone. Maybe one message either gets missed or is kept for some reason.

If it's an iPhone he may not know that it's easy to recover deleted iMessages.
Open iMessage, top let corner 'edit', view recently deleted.

I didn't realise this until very recently, it's possible your partner doesn't know either.

Goodness me, I never realised that! I have deleted spam from 22 days ago. Thank you brusselspout.

That could open a can of worms for some people I'd imagine.

@fortheast12 yup, I can imagine it would potentially cause a few issues!!
I don't even know when that feature was added, but it feels new!

Even if its not an iPhone, deleted messages go into a recycle bin. When you go into messages and click the 3 dots an option comes up for recycle bin, if you click on that any deleted messages show in there unless they have been deleted too. Although I think it automatically deletes after 30 days.

Thanks so much for your advice all. It's really appreciated. Going to have to put my big pants on and call I think..

Yep. Sorry you're having to go through this OP.

Receiving a text like that has happened to me. Its not impossible that its perfectly innocent.

Both me and my daughter have received Whatsapp messages over the past few days from two different numbers, one saying Hi How are you? and the other saying I miss you, or something similar. One had a whatsapp photo of a woman we don't know, the other didn't have a photo, neither of them were anything to do with us, they were just random phishing spam.

I never understand this mentality. If you know something is off, going through a phone might be the only way you can get some insight as to what on earth is going on. I went through my ExH (of 20 years) phone when he was passed out drunk, because I had suspicions that he was having an affair. I found text messages between him and my very best friend, talking about the sex they had been having behind my back. I do not regret one bit invading his privacy.

Tried to call. It went to voicemail. Will tey again in a little while