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I think the man I am seeing is giving me a slow fade

113 replies

Itfeelslikeforever · 04/01/2023 23:03

It’s excruciating. It’s been a year and he pursued me doggedly for six months before that.

for the last two months he has tapered off seeing me blaming work, Christmas… his family and friends’ problems.. not wanting to leave his dog alone. He went from calling every day to every other day to once every three days and now we are hitting once a week.

the last time I saw him was December 8th. We went out for dinner had a great time, went back to his, had sex. He sent me a string of heart emojis in the morning and I felt everything was back on track.

when I get a chance to speak to him I offer him a get out but he insists he is just busy. I even told him I thought he was slow fading me and I’d prefer he just breaks up with me. He insisted he wasn’t, said it was upsetting I said that.

he has gone away with work now for two weeks (!) I spoke to him before he left. I haven’t heard from him for four days. We have our own holiday planned at the end of this month.

i don’t know how to bring this torture to an end?

OP posts:
JustKittenAround · 22/01/2023 04:23

emptythelitterbox · 22/01/2023 04:09

Saving this thread!

Wishing any woman who needs it the strength to boot these lazy takers out for good.

Your name says it all! Empty that litter box! It’s so much better when it’s clean!

emptythelitterbox · 22/01/2023 04:34

JustKittenAround · 22/01/2023 04:23

Your name says it all! Empty that litter box! It’s so much better when it’s clean!

🤣😂

You must have just been to the dirty bird thread too...guy won't brush his teeth or bathe and you just know he doesn't wipe his arse.

Empty it!

JustKittenAround · 22/01/2023 04:48

emptythelitterbox · 22/01/2023 04:34

🤣😂

You must have just been to the dirty bird thread too...guy won't brush his teeth or bathe and you just know he doesn't wipe his arse.

Empty it!

Girl I was!!!! EMPTY IT!!! Yes!!!

Delorestormborn · 22/01/2023 06:52

Loving the advice on this thread. OP you are amazing and he is nothing.

Johnduttonsbuttocks · 22/01/2023 07:27

@JustKittenAround , you need to write a book. You are RAW. 💪

LadyLolaRuben · 22/01/2023 09:02

Reading this thread again this morning to give me strength to continue going no-contact - been three weeks. I hope OP comes back to thread and tells us how she's getting on, especially how her work meeting goes on 31st January

Thisisworsethananticpated · 22/01/2023 11:25

LadyLolaRuben

same ! No contact and needing strength
mainly to put him In the right mental bucket
a flawed human ego for some reason made me really really anxious for a year

i did screenshot kittens posts and read them when I wavered

Notevenanoption · 23/01/2023 08:51

Love this post as well. 2 weeks no contact and struggling.x

LadyLolaRuben · 23/01/2023 21:56

Thisisworsethananticpated · 22/01/2023 11:25

LadyLolaRuben

same ! No contact and needing strength
mainly to put him In the right mental bucket
a flawed human ego for some reason made me really really anxious for a year

i did screenshot kittens posts and read them when I wavered

I screenshotted Kittens post too. Yes I was anxious for 12 months as well. I find after 28 days the habit of thinking about them fades to less frequently x

LadyLolaRuben · 23/01/2023 21:57

Notevenanoption · 23/01/2023 08:51

Love this post as well. 2 weeks no contact and struggling.x

Keep going. It takes 28 days to break a habit like this. It gets easier x

frequenttraveller1 · 23/01/2023 22:01

I'm in the same boat. 3 weeks no contact. Like the op holiday is booked but not going. The one at the end of last year was horrendous as I thought it would make us closer but it drove us further apart.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 24/01/2023 20:37

LadyLolaRuben

i like the 28 days
I want that fucker OUT of my head forever
I was totally obsessed
madness

jvandussen · 24/11/2023 16:26

Some men,not all are very infamously popular for ditching women after Sex.

Don't lose your time or self respect anymore.

He was chasing you for getting a leg over actually.

He manipulated you by making you feel that by chasing you,you are kept at a pedestal only to kick you by his feet.

Send him a message and discontinue.

Lots of love and power to you.

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